“There is more happiness in the godly dinner of herbs than in the stalled ox of profane rioters.” Charles Spurgeon*
Social science and common sense agree on one thing: the family that eats together, stays together. But how? Here are some helpful tips I’ve picked up along the way.
Read my six tips here.
Yesterday I suggested that Dr. R C Sproul’s favorite word is “righteousness.” Today I can reveal Matthew Henry’s favorite theme. In the introduction to his beautiful little book, The Pleasantness of a Religious Life, Henry writes:
“In this, I confess, I indulge an inclination of my own; for this doctrine of the pleasantness of religion is what I have long had a particular kindness for, and taken all occasions to mention.”
The book is based on six sermons on why everyone should be a Christian, his text being Proverbs 3:17.
“Her [Wisdom's] ways are ways of pleasantness, and all her paths are peace.”
Henry asks why the Christian life is called “ways of pleasantness” and gives five possibilities:
1. It’s as if pleasantness were confined to those ways.
2. It’s as if pleasantness were not to be found anywhere else.
3. It’s as if pleasantness were confined to those ways, and not to be found anywhere else.
4. It’s as if pleasantness arose from the innate goodness of the ways themselves.
5. It denotes the superlative pleasantness of the Christian religion: it’s as pleasant as pleasantness itself.
Tomorrow I hope to publish a categorized list of over 400 of the best online resources on pastoral ministry. While putting this together I realized I had collected a number of posts from pastors looking back on their ministries and drawing lessons – 174 to be exact – from their experiences. I’ve included links to these posts underneath (one from a pastor’s wife).
The most repeated lesson in the posts was the need for pastors to give a much greater priority to their marriage and family.
10 Lessons from Andrew Fuller
20 Lessons from Bob Russell
10 Lessons from Sam Storms
35 Lessons from Tom Ascol
6 Lessons from A Rookie Pastor
10 Lessons from Brian Croft
9 Lessons from Thabiti Anyabwile
8 Lessons from Kyle McClellan
10 Lessons from Thom Rainer’s Research
6 Lessons from Brian Hedges
50 Lessons from a Pastor’s Wife
“If half the breath thus vainly spent in finding fault with our fellow-Christians were spent in prayer and praise, how much happier, how much richer, we should be spiritually!” Charles Spurgeon
The second ingredient of a happy home is generous praise. We previously noted how praising God in family worship produces joy; but praising others does too.
Psychologists and sociologists have found that for every negative or critical comment we make to someone, we have to make three positive comments just to get back to even. That means if we want to grow and deepen our relationships we have to speak four or five times more positive comments to someone for every negative.
Read the rest of this article at HappyChristian.net