Work, Life, and Guilt: An Interview

Recently one of my all-time favorite bloggers, Trillia Newbell, interviewed me about how to find the balance between work and life and how to deal with the guilt of our failures in that area. My answers are largely based upon learning from my failures in this area rather than any expertise! Her questions include:

  1. Have you ever had a busy season and felt guilty as it relates to time away from family?
  2. How do men in particularly reconcile the need for work and the need for family time? God calls us to work and yet also prioritize family—what are your thoughts?
  3. As a wife, I can’t help but desire for my husband to be encouraged. Though he does not struggle with guilt, I imagine others do. How would you encourage a man who works long hours trying to care for his family but struggles with guilt?
  4. What about a woman who is working outside the home? Would you advise her differently? If so, how? How do we encourage women who feel the pressure to work or work long hours, especially if she’d like to be home?
  5. Practically, what are ways that we can maximize our time that we do have with our kids and spouse when not working?
  6. Anything I might be missing? Gospel truths that might encourage?

You can read the whole interview here.


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Connected Kingdom Podcast: The Exile

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This week’s episode of the Ligonier Connect – Connected Kingdom podcast considers the exile. Dr. Sproul’s lecture guided us through a complicated period of history, raising a number of questions among our students which Tim and I try to tackle, including:

1. The importance of understanding history for understanding Scripture

2. How the loss of biblical worship leads to the loss of God’s favor.

3. How is our day like Josiah’s day and why should this encourage us?

4. What does the Jewish exile represent for the Christian?

5. How do we reconcile the seeming difference between two Scriptures, one of which says the devil incited David to number the people and the other which says God incited him?

6. Why does Chronicles not mention David’s adultery?


The most hated man in science

I picked up a newspaper in my Canadian hotel last Saturday morning. Don’t think I’ve done that for a few years, but as I wrestled with the unwieldy broadsheet, the buttered pages and the inky hands brought back a lot of memories.

It was The National Post and the only reason I chose it over my iPhone was the headline “Evolution’s Revolution: How a leading atheist philosopher became an intellectual outcast for daring to question Darwinism.”

The philosopher in question is the world-renowned Thomas Nagel, philosophy professor at New York University, and his unforgivable sin is arguing in his latest book, Mind & Cosmos, that the evolutionary view of nature is false.

The article describes the “vicious reception” his book has received and how “grand forces of darkness have descended upon him…His deep skepticism about evolution’s explanatory power, illustrates the perils of raising arguments against intellectual orthodoxy.” Fellow professors have sneeringly questioned his sanity, called him “the most hated man in science,” and some in Britain have even awarded him the booby prize of “Most Despised Science Book.”

Laughable ideological theory
Nagel is not a Christian; he’s not even a theist; in fact he’s not even a supporter of intelligent design. He’s a convinced atheist, yet one with serious questions about evolutionary theory. He says it is “ripe for displacement” and represents “a heroic triumph of ideological theory over common sense,” which will be seen as “laughable” in a couple of generations.” His argument goes something like this:

1. The more we learn about life, the more central mind and consciousness become, and the less believable evolution gets.

2. Evolution’s main flaw is its failure to account for how consciousness fits into the natural order. Instead, it regards it as an unimportant afterthought, an accidental quirk, no more significant than the mutation that (allegedly) produced eyebrows.

3. The idea that life arose first from accidental chemical reactions in primordial goo and eventually self-created all the wonders of human consciousness “flies in the face of common sense.”

4. The modern evolutionary conception of nature requires about as much unscientific faith as believing Rudyard Kipling’s moralistic Just So stories from 1902.

Engage or denigrate?
It won’t surprise those of us who are creationists that, instead of engaging Nagel’s arguments, evolutionists have preferred to denigrate his intellect, associate him with religious fanatics, and impute motives of publicity seeking (and greed) to his decision to subtitle it: “Why the Materialist Neo-Darwinian Conception of Nature is Almost Certainly False.”

The National Post journalist who wrote the story, Joseph Brean, compares the scientific establishment’s treatment of Nagel to the way they persecute climate-change skeptics:

The impassioned shunning of Prof. Nagel parallels the experience of some climate-change skeptics. By the time it became a political mega-issue a decade ago, environmentalism had come to resemble religion, complete with myths of the Fall and the Apocalypse, pilgrimages, iconography, scripture, prophecies, tithes, and Al Gore as a secular saint.

Now evolutionary science, in its opposition to creationism, is staking out a similar position in the culture wars. Richard Dawkins is emerging as the anti-pope of a New Atheism, whose orthodoxy inspires the brutal treatment of heretics, even as it lures adherents into a simplistic, unreflective, fanciful faith in its own methods.

Courageous heretic
I greatly admire Nagel’s courage to think outside the box and challenge the scientific orthodoxy of our day. It’s very rare for someone of his stature to take such a career-damaging, reputation-trashing step. One popular magazine profile has him on the front page with “Heretic” emblazoned across it. That’s hard.

I hope and pray that God continues to direct his thoughts away from error and towards the truth. At the moment, he’s still far away from bowing his whole intellect to the Lord and Creator of Mind & Cosmos. Although he rejects many popular explanations for mind and consciousness, and he denies that consciousness is an accidental by-product of evolution, the best he can come up with is that it was somehow written into the universe from the beginning. “Each of our lives is a part of the lengthy process of the universe gradually waking up and becoming aware of itself.”

Although I’m sure he didn’t intend this, Nagel’s book encourages creationists to persevere in challenging the presuppositions, evidences, and faith of evolutionary theory. Let’s not be so quick to try and accomodate the frequent, fleeting, and faulty theories of man. It also challenges us to engage our opponents much more calmly, reasonably, and respectfully than is sometimes the case. Let’s not duplicate the shameful, shrill, reactionary, and mindless browbeating that Nagel’s opponents have dished out when we contend for the faith once delivered to the saints.

 You can read a sightly edited version of the newspaper article here


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It’s the little things; OK, it’s the big things too
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Why ministers need the wilderness
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What Yahoo can teach us about church

Working from home for large corporations has increased by 60% over the past five years or so, and at some companies, almost half the staff telecommutes. Studies have demonstrated a number of benefits:

  • A Stanford study found that Chinese call-center employees who worked from home were thirteen per cent more productive.
  • Another estimated that a ten-per-cent increase in telecommuting could save a hundred billion dollars in lost time and expenses.
  • By putting home at the center of society, it reintegrates work and family.
  • By cutting down on physical commuting it cuts emissions and saves the environment
  • Flexible work arrangements produce higher employee satisfaction, motivation and engagement as well as lower staff turnover.

But, as part of her so-far-successful efforts to turnaround and rebuild Yahoo, C.E.O. Marissa Mayer has banned all telecommuting.

So why’s a futuristic company like Yahoo rewinding the future?

It’s realized that for all the benefits of telecommuting, there were three areas where more was being lost than gained.

1. Loss of informal communication
It’s much harder for telecommuters to have the kind of informal and unplanned interaction that shares knowledge, challenges people to see things from another’s perspective, gets them out of their mental ruts, and stimulates creativity and productivity. Less communication means less collaboration.

2. Loss of trust
Telecommuting makes it harder to foster trust and solidarity. Face time is still the best way to build relationships. Studies have found that even occassional face-to-face meetings of “virtual teams” significantly increased trust and boosted performance.

3. Loss of energy
Yahoo’s office was virtually empty on a Friday, demoralizing and sucking the life out of the rare few who did turn up to the ghost town.

Telecommuting to church?
If this is true of Yahoo, how much more of your local church. You might be able to get better sermons online, or it might be just so much more “efficient” to simply listen to your pastor’s podcast. But if you regularly “telecommute” to church, you are losing more than you are gaining. You are losing valuable opportunities to learn from the “chance” meetings with other Christians in the foyer, in the corridors, and in the car park. You are undermining trust and unity between Christians. And you are sapping vital energy from the demoralized body of Christ.

So push yourself out of bed, get in the car, and get along to your local church. You’ll learn surprising lessons from the most surprising people, you’ll build valuable relationships, and you’ll get and give morale-boosting energy.