And here’s an explanation of the plan
And here’s an explanation of the plan
We’ve really struggled to find Black, Hispanic, and Asian subjects for our DVD project, Christians get depressed too. I’ve talked to a couple of African American friends and I’m beginning to understand why. Knowing that Pastor Thabiti Anyabwile has a background in Psychology, I reached out to ask for his views, and he’s agreed to be interviewed for the DVD on this subject. I’m so looking forward to hearing his insights and hoping that his interview will help promote understanding and compassion towards many secret sufferers in the African American community.
In God’s providence, just yesterday I came across an article in my pre-interview preparation called Black with postpartum depression: My therapist had never treated a black woman. Lebo, a black South African mother movingly describes her battle with Postpartum depression and Postpartum OCD. And a great part of the battle for her was the lack of understanding and help from her own community.
I tried looking for more black women who had gone through this. I found three on Twitter. Three … that’s it. I talked to anyone who cared to listen, and many made me feel insecure, like I was the only black woman to ever go through this. I was told to smile, pray more, suck it up and enjoy my baby. Why are you on meds? Don’t you know you’ll be dependant for life? My very close cousin was scared of me, she told me I was going crazy. See I love how the black community is the same all over the world … like Addye said:
I made a choice to reach out. I owed it to myself to get better, to my kids, to my family. The white community in South Africa welcomed me with open arms. They all knew someone who’d gone through postpartum depression. My therapist had never ever treated a black woman. Our support group had, well, no women of colour. But I made it my mission to find more of us, and what better way to do that than sharing my experiences. I wrote to all baby magazines, and started a blog. And one day, when I least expected it, my pastor at church called me to the side and told me that she went through PPD. Two of my distant friends had gone through it, but kept it a secret. I also received two emails from strangers who had gone through this.
You can read the rest here (warning: couple of misuses of “Hell”), and Too blessed to be stressed is another heart-rending testimony in the Warrior Moms of Color series. I’d thoroughly recommend this Black folk don’t go to therapy video as well:
Have you got any insights you can offer on this subject? Anyone else I should be speaking to? We’d really like to maximize the helpfulness of this film to as many different groups and communities as possible.
How to preach from an iPad
It’s probably the future, but I’m not there yet.
Fargo woman marries herself
Just when you think we’ve run out of ways to pervert marriage: ““I was waiting for someone to come along and make me happy,” she says. “At some point, a friend said, ‘Why do you need someone to marry you to be happy? Marry yourself.’”
The 10 most misleading social media metrics in the world
This is aimed at businesses, but much of it applies to Christian blogging too.
Timeless wisdom for Seminary Graduates
23 principles for Seminary students (and pastors) from Princeton’s Archibald Alexander.
If you want to make reading boring, read every word and try to remember everything you read.
5 Reasons Why I love Preaching the Prophets
This should stimulate some “prophetic preaching”
You have a problem. It’s yourself. To be blunt, you are addicted to yourself.
I’m afraid that you were born this way, as all of us are. However, most of us learn to hide it most of the time; or at least we come to realize that 100% self-centeredness is not the best way to achieve our goals! That’s a selfish motive, I know, but it’s kind of how society works. There is another way out of this addiction, a way that actually removes self rather than just manages it, but I’ll get to that later.
Like most addicts, you probably don’t realize you have a problem. Although you are constantly thinking about yourself, you know hardly anything about yourself. So, let me describe the symptoms of selfaholism and then give you some hope of getting free from it, especially as you are still young.
Selfaholism is characterized by self-centeredness, self-righteousness, self-promotion, self-sufficiency, self-will, self-worship, self-love, self-praise, etc. However, these symptoms manifest themselves differently, depending on the age of the addict. As you are still a teenager, you are probably in one of the worst phases of selfaholism – strong, independent, and self-conscious enough to show the uglier side of selfaholism; but not wise or experienced enough to realize that it is self-destructive and self-defeating unless at least “managed” and modified.
You probably can’t understand why your parents ever say “No” to you. And why should they even consider what your brothers and sisters want? Why shouldn’t you sit scowling and slouching at the table? Doesn’t affect anyone else, does it? As for chores, why can’t you just come home, eat, and stay in your room? Why should Mom want to know what went on at school today? If only she would talk less, she might have your Hollister t-shirts ready when you need them for a change, right? And isn’t it really annoying the way Dad insists on you going to bed at the same time as him and Mom. As you “teenage-whispered” to your buddy: “I thought old people got deaf eventually. Why can’t I make milk shakes at midnight? I mean, whatever…”
But you’re miserable aren’t you. That’s the weird thing about addictions. They promise much, but deliver little. You think that by pursuing your agenda that you will find happiness, contentment, and satisfaction. But, as you are discovering, self-love causes self-hatred. Oh, I know you think your misery is caused by all the “no’s” in your life – no’s from parents, no’s from teachers, no’s from pastors, no’s from everyone. “Why does no one ever say “yes” to me?”
But the problem is simpler and shorter than you think. It is the big capital letter “I” at the center of your heart. And until that letter is broken in many pieces, your life will continue on its dismal and dreary course. You will wander from relationship to relationship, from college to college, from marriage to marriage, from job to job, from church to church, and from bright shiny thing to next bright shiny thing. And it will always be “their” fault and never yours: parents, teachers, friends, professors, wives, husbands, pastors, bosses, government, whoever, whatever…If only they would all bow down and serve you then all would be well.
But here’s the strangest thing of all; the happiest people in the world are servants – not those who warm the slippers of millionaires, but those who serve others in all their relationships and responsibilities. They may have a million in the bank or even just red ink, but whatever their social or financial standing, they listen well, they give away their money and time, they volunteer at church, they do more than their assigned chores, and they even do some things without pay!
I know that sounds like total misery to you, but, believe me, it’s the way to happiness. Now, of course some people are selfless for selfish reasons. They have the wisdom to see that living just for self is not very helpful socially or vocationally. (I wish you even had that insight). But there are others who not only manage and modify their selfaholism. They actually deny self and live for others. How? Well, they have the great Self-denier working in their hearts. I’m talking about Jesus Christ of course, the Servant who can turn the worst selfaholics into the best servaholics
Study Christ’s life and ask yourself how you too can serve rather than be served. But, above all, study His death. Studying his life will shrink your “I” a little; but it’s when you stand before His cross that your “I” will begin to crack and crumble, even at it’s very foundations. Paul calls us, just as he called the Philippians selfaholics of his own day, to grasp that Christ’s servaholism atones for our selfaholism (Phil. 2:3-7). And as we grasp that supreme act of Self-denial on our behalf, we will not only serve, but we will serve out of selfless motives. We will stop thinking about what we are giving up and all we’ll see is what He gave up.
Is it just coincidence that the great Philippian epistle of service is also the great epistle of joy? (Phil. 3:1; 4:1, 4). I earnestly pray that you too will come to know the joy of servaholism (1 Cor. 16:15).
From a recovering selfaholic.
Why I hate handwritten sermon notes
A bit tongue-in-cheek (I think), but some good points nevertheless.
20 Things Pastors Hear in Counseling
Timothy Reymond: “The following are 20 statements you’ll probably hear at least once or twice (or more) in your ministry. I’d encourage you to think through how you’d respond, and more importantly, what specific passages of Scripture you might connect to each situation.”
The Best Social Media Tip I Can Give You
When Nathan Bingham says this, I listen.
Ditch College for All
The debate continues. Bit extreme but maybe that’s necessary to drag society to a more balanced position.
Dear Peter Thiel: Let’s fix college the right way
On the same subject, but more balanced, constructive, and innovative: “We can make the old-style college degree obsolete. We can do to traditional education what PayPal did to banks and do to college networks what Facebook did to friendships. Just as it happened to information, we can make education abundant and available to all. Isn’t that better than debating who should go to college?”
Scholarship as a way of life
James Smith calls us all to lifelong learning, whatever our calling: “To say that scholarship is a way of life is to emphasize that it is characterized by certain habits–of reflection, exploration, creativity, and collaboration.”
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