I was sent this audio clip of a Q&A at the recent Expositor’s Conference. Al Mohler was asked a question that concerns many pastors: “I work with college students…and one of the big influences on their lives right now is Mark Driscoll. What do you think the effects of sitting under Driscoll on Youtube or on his website, and what kind of things do I need to be prepared for ministering to college students listening to his teaching?”
Repeated, perfunctory responses. A person who says, “Oh really? Oh really? That’s interesting. Oh really?” is probably not too engaged. Or a person who keeps saying, “That’s hilarious.”
Simple questions. People who are bored ask simple questions. “When did you move?” “Where did you go?” People who are interested ask more complicated questions that show curiosity, not mere politeness.
Interruption. Although it sounds rude, interruption is actually a good sign, I think. It means a person is bursting to say something, and that shows interest.
Request for clarification. A person who is sincerely interested in what you’re saying will need you to elaborate or to explain. “What does that term mean?” “When exactly did that happen?”
Imbalance of talking time. I suspect that many people fondly suppose that they usually do eighty percent of the talking in a conversation because people find them fascinating. Sometimes, it’s true…In general, though, people who are interested in a subject have things to say themselves; they want to add their own opinions, information, and experiences. If they aren’t doing that, they probably just want the conversation to end faster.
Body position. People with a good connection generally turn fully to face each other. A person who is partially turned away isn’t fully embracing the conversation.
Audience posture. An audience that’s upright and still is interested, while an audience that’s horizontal and squirmy is bored.
The seventh is especially helpful (worrying?) for preachers.
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Friends and members of the Los Angeles Reformed Presbyterian Church:
You would not believe how God, in Christ, has been working in the city of Los Angeles. Well… maybe you can!
Can you believe that we have students under care, four home fellowship groups, a growing congregation, and even worship services twice each Lord’s Day? Here is the Autumn edition of Angelos: The Messenger. I hope that this encourages you to pray and support the local ministry of the Los Angeles Reformed Presbyterian Church.
Please let us know how you are praying for us. We look forward to hearing from you- our friends and partners in the ministry. Please continue to uplift the saints in the City of Angels and to plead with our Lord and Savior on behalf of this great city.