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This is the most theological of the chapters that I’ve read so far in Christ-centered Biblical Counseling, as it sets out to explore how “the doctrine of the Trinity affects both the goals and practice of counseling Christians.”
The Great Commission
The authors begin by looking at the Great Commission in Matthew 28v18-20, and end that first section with three applications:
Counseling done in the name of the Son must submit to His supreme authority.
Biblical counselors do not have any authority to deviate from Jesus’ purposes for the work of the church.
Counseling done within the church must include an invitation to have a relationship with Jesus through the Gospel for anyone who is not a Christian.
The authors also conclude their survey of the Apostle John’s teaching with three applications:
The relationship exhibited by the Triune God becomes the standard for unity, intimacy, perfect fellowship, harmony and oneness among Christians.
The believer’s love and friendship with one another should intentionally reflect the relationships within the Trinity.
These relationships within the church demonstrate the glory of God in love, kindness, graciousness, enjoyment, hope and unity.
The authors’ conclusion is that “a clear grasp of the relational model exhibited in the Triune God and its effects upon unity among believers directly impacts the purpose, practice, and priorities of the biblical counselor.”
The purpose of counseling is to help the counselee view life and trials in the light of a personal relationship with the Triune God.
The counselor is not primarily a doctor, professional or technician; the counselor is a friend, brother/sister, and companion in Christ amid suffering and sin.
If God blesses Dan and me with a child who is gay, I would want that child to know without a doubt that he or she is loved unconditionally. I would want her to know nothing could separate her from the love of God in Christ. I would want her to know that she isn’t broken, she isn’t an embarrassment, she isn’t a disappointment. May I be part of creating a world in which I will not have to protect her from the bullies.
I believe Rachel’s motivation is to create a more welcoming and loving environment in the church for those who identify themselves as homosexuals, or who struggle with homosexual desire. I admire and agree with her motive, and must say that I’ve learned from her in this area of being much more careful in how I speak and write about homosexuality.
However, I would challenge Rachel in two areas.
First, she doesn’t communicate any concern about the sinfulness of homosexual desires nor the immorality of homosexual actions. She seems to convey that homosexual desires are not part of human brokenness, and that to pursue homosexual practices does not have any bearing on a person’s relationship with Christ. No matter what they do, they remain Christ’s “little ones.” There is no indication that she sees anything wrong or unbiblical about homosexuality.
Second, Rachel seems to identify everyone who takes the view that homosexual desires are part of broken human sinfulness, and that homosexual actions are sin, as bullies. Are there bullies who hold these views? Yes, sadly, of course there are. However, it’s irresponsible and unfair to group all who say that homosexuality is immoral as bullies of Christ’s little ones. In doing so, Rachel is, unwittingly I’m sure, aiding and abetting the militant LGBT movement who want to demonize and silence all opposition to their agenda.
I’d like to offer an alternative response to Rachel. It’s not perfect either, I’m sure. Like many Christians I’m still learning how to respond to the social and cultural revolution of the past ten years or so. However, I think it is more biblical than Rachel’s, without being bullying.
Click on over to Christianity.com to read my eight guidelines for parents in this situation.