Digital Detox Roundup

Here’s your latest links for digital detox. More digital detox resources here.

A Face-to-Face Request Is 34 Times More Successful than an Email | Vanessa K. Bohns, HBR

Despite the reach of email, asking in person is the significantly more effective approach; you need to ask six people in person to equal the power of a 200-recipient email blast. Still, most people tend to think the email ask will be more effective.

Along similar lines, read Learn to Lead Through the Power of Presence, which highlights how technology has given us fantastic tools, but has diminished the leadership art of presence.

To be a leader in your organization you must embrace the idea that a call or visit is sometimes the prescription for moving the needle, managing conflict and building strong relationships.  Here are 5 principles you should incorporate in your leadership routines:

  1. Pick up the phone when projects are stuck.
  2. With critical projects, visit peers and leadership face to face.
  3. Speak face-to-face in tense or combative situations.
  4. Send feedback after phone or face-to-face meetings.
  5. Call or visit when nothing is pressing.

If It’s Hard To Imagine A Day Without Your Phone, You Need To Do It | Gracy Olmstead, The Federalist

We’re all about cleanses and detoxing these days. Sometimes we emphasize these things to extremes. But perhaps an occasional break can show us what we’re missing—and prompt us to foster better habits throughout our daily lives.

The idea of a “day without devices” would be a similar concept to the idea of Meatless Mondays, just focusing on technology instead of food. It could focus on a day trip somewhere fun—to hike, picnic in the park, visit a museum, go on a bike ride, or explore a new neighborhood.

Amazon launches new features aimed at making parents’ lives easier | Nicole Gallucci, Mashable
Amazon introduces a new way to keep track of your kids’ media time with their new “Parent Dashboard.”

10 Things You Should Know about Your Smartphone | Crossway.org

  1. Your smartphone is not all bad.
  2. Your smartphone is not all good.
  3. Your smartphone amplifies your addiction to distractions.
  4. Your smartphone pushes you to evade the limits of embodiment.
  5. Your smartphone feeds your craving for immediate approval.
  6. Your smartphone undermines key literary skills.
  7. Your smartphone offers a buffet of produced media.
  8. Your smartphone overtakes and distorts your identity.
  9. Your smartphone need not have these negative affects (sic) on you.
  10. Your smartphone can be a tool for knowing and enjoying God.

How to be a Tech-Wise Family & manage kids, technology & family | Andy Crouch

All the best things we want for our families—our children and ourselves—involve creating, rather than consuming.

And the best way to have a creative life, rather than a consumer life, is to make it part of the furniture.

Fill the center of your life together—the literal center, the heart of your home, the place where you spend the most time together—with the things that reward creativity, relationship, and engagement.

Push technology and cheap thrills to the edges; move deeper and more lasting things to the core.

Cellphones, conferences, entertainment, and hockey | The Upward Call
Kim was shocked at what she saw at a recent hockey game.

What If My Husband Looks at Porn? | Kara Garis, Desiring God
Kara offers an honest testimony and six points of advice for women who find themselves in this awful situation.

  1. You, sweet woman, are not in a battle against your husband.
  2. His sin is not your body’s fault.
  3. Embrace Jesus’ sovereignty and trust him for your husband.
  4. Your sin of bitterness is not justified.
  5. He needs you and your forgiveness now more than ever.
  6. Your husband is not your savior and you are not his.

Can We Gain the Whole World Wide Web without Losing Our Souls? | Amy Simpson

If the Internet doesn’t deliver on authentic connection, what keeps us coming back? Are we lured by the possibility of true connection, or have we become content to substitute participation and opportunities for self-expression? Perhaps we’re afraid of being left out or missing out on something we should know. Either way, most of online “connection” pales in comparison to the kind of connection we can find with people in the same room. Ironically, though, in our quest for connection in a virtual world, we often ignore the people we can see and touch.


Should we seek to burn out for Jesus?

I love energetic, ambitious, zealous young Christian men. What a gift to the church they are! And I want them to do whatever their vocation leads them to do—go for it. However, there are dangers if you make unwise choices.

What we don’t realize when we’re young is that we all have a limited amount of life fuel. And we can either expend all of it in the first decade of our working life and and then suffer for the rest of it, or we can pace ourselves, being refueled along the way as well. It’s something I wish I’d learned when I was younger that if you pace yourself, it’s not that you’re being lazy, it’s that you’re being wise.

Read the rest of this video transcript at the Crossway blog.


Check out

Blogs

Advice for Students Considering a PhD

10 Books That Belong on Every Pastor’s Bookshelf

10 Ugly Numbers Describing Pornography Use in 2017

The Uniqueness of the Psalms

Low-Tech Solutions for High Impact Pastors

The Positive Uses of a Bit of Vinegar

Kindle Books

Crosstalk: Where Life and Scripture Meet by Mike Emlett $2.99.

Running Scared: Fear, Worry, and the God of Rest by Ed Welch $2.99.

God at Work: Your Christian Vocation in all of Life by Gene Veith $3.99.

Video

Mom and daughter reunite after 77 years…it’s never too late for a miracle
Wow! This is a powerful story.


Lies at the Heart of Addiction

It doesn’t matter what kind of addiction it is—drink, drugs, food, gambling, porn, spending, tanning, people-pleasing, people-critiquing, control, digital technology, etc.—lies are at the heart of them all. That’s why Jesus said to religious addicts, ”You shall know the truth and the truth shall make you free.”

Every addict tells four kinds of lies: lies about God, lies about themselves, lies about the sin, and lies about others. The only way to deliver addicts is to rip out these lies and replace them with truth.

Here’s a sampling, and it’s just a sampling, of the lies that addicts tell; and a sampling of the truths that can root them out and replace them.

Lies about God

Lie: God is not Good. He’s just being a spoilsport in forbidding this sin. The sin is good and God is bad.

Truth:  God is good to all and does good to all. His law is an expression of his goodness (Ps. 145:9; 119:68; Rom. 7:12).

Lie: God is not all-seeing. He can’t really see me when I do this.

Truth: God sees all people, all things, all events, at all times (Ps. 139:1-16; Prov. 15:3)

Lie: God is not judge. He will not call me to account for this.

Truth: We will give account for every deed done or not done, in public and in private (2 Cor. 5:10; Rom. 2:16)

Lie: God is not Savior. I’ve sinned too much for God to save me. There’s no point in even trying to be saved.

Truth: Whoever, whoever, whoever calls upon the name of the Lord will be saved. (Rom. 10:13; 1 John 1:9; John 6:37)

Lie: God is not enough. God will not satisfy me as sin does

Truth: There is more than enough in God to satisfy the hungriest and thirstiest soul (Ps. 63:3-5; John 7:37)

Lies about Self

Lie: I don’t have a problem. I mean I sin, even quite a lot, but it’s not an addiction.

Truth: Whoever commits sin (lit. continues to practice sin) is a slave of sin (Rom. 6:16; John 8:34)

Lie: I’m not as bad as others.

Truth: Our standard of comparison is God’s Word not other people (2 Cor. 10:12).

Lie: It’s not harming me.

Truth: Every sin hardens our hearts (Heb. 3:13) and ultimately ends in death (James 1:15)

Lie: If only you knew how hard and exceptional my circumstances are.

Truth: Your situation is common to many and they don’t resort to such sins (1 Cor. 10:13)

Lie: I cannot change and I cannot escape.

Truth: God always provides an escape route and he can give real freedom to anyone (1 Cor. 10:13; John 8:36).

Lies about Sin

Lie: This habit makes me happy.

Truth: Maybe, but it’s a very brief and fleeting happiness that leaves a bitter taste (Heb. 11:24-26).

Lie: This helps me forget my past.

Truth: The most important thing is for God to forget your past (Heb. 8:12).

Lie: Now is not a good time to stop.

Truth: Now is the accepted time, today is the day of salvation (2 Cor. 6:2)

Lies about Others

Lie: Those condemning me and trying to stop me are my enemies.

Truth: Those who try to stop you sinning are actually your best friends and they’re doing you a great kindness (Prov. 27:6; Ps. 141:5)

Lie: It’s my parents’/abuser’s/husband’s/wife’s fault.

Truth: When Adam blamed Eve, and Eve blamed the snake, God blamed and punished all of them (Gen 3:14-19; Ezek. 18:20). The soul that sins, it shall die

Lie: This doesn’t affect others.

Truth: Do you need a Bible verse for this? Just ask those around you what the truth is

Lie: People are just objects.

Truth: Your porn addiction feeds its lust on divine image-bearers. You are watching people made in the image of God  (Gen. 1:27). You are abusing the divine image for your sexual pleasure.

Whatever you are addicted to, try to find the lies at its heart and then attack them with God’s powerful truth. “You shall know the truth and the truth shall make you free.”


Recommended Books

Banquet in the Grave by Ed Welch.

The Heart of Addiction by Mark Shaw.

You’ll also find some more addiction-specific mini-books in this excellent Lifeline series.


Check out

Blogs

If Humble People Make the Best Leaders, Why Do We Fall for Charismatic Narcissists?
Good question. Especially for churches.

Muslim Convert: Jesus is the Only Truth
Here’s an encouraging testimony of a recent convert from Islam.

Podcast – Cultivating Pastoral Affections
Brian Croft and Jim Savastio discuss how pastoral affections are necessary for weekly ministry.

Hezekiah My Hero
Re-reading the life and times of Hezekiah has given me a fresh more positive take on his reign – I’ve recently declared in church ‘Hezekiah is my new hero!’

Anxiety: My Thorn in My Flesh
Here’s an excellent article on depression.

I woke up last week with a feeling of dread in the pit of my stomach. Nothing, in particular, was wrong, but that didn’t stop my mind from racing through every possible thing that I could worry about. And then it latched on to something. And I began to obsess about it. And worry about it. And I prayed and talked myself down. And then “but, what if?” And then it latched on again. And I continued to obsess about it. And worry about it. And I prayed and talked myself down. Again, and again, and again. For days. Every night I’d go to sleep praying about it. Every morning I’d wake up early with the same dread, and the cycle would begin again. It was exhausting.

5 Lessons from Fallen Pastors
As pastors are removed from ministry, the implications on churches and families are far-reaching. Here are five lessons from a season of fallen pastors, a season that has, at times, felt epidemic.

Kindle Books

Risen: 50 Reasons Why the Resurrection Changed Everything $1.99.

Work Matters: Connecting Sunday Worship to Monday Work $3.99.


Reset Resources

A page of resources for Reset: Living a Grace-Paced Life in a Burnout Culture. There’s also an audiobook available.

Grace-Paced Life Links

The Other Woman, The 100 Hour Error, Calvin the Multi-tasker, Self-Care for the Suffering

Anxious Americans, Royal interest in mental health, Preventing Pastoral Burnout, Sleep is the New Status Symbol

Infographic

The Common (Yet Neglected) Problem of Burnout

Download a PDF version of the Infographic (one pagemultiple pages) for easy sharing and printing.

Videos

Learning to Live a Grace-Paced Life (Interview with Justin Taylor)

Four Pieces of Advice for Stressed Christians

Why you should go to bed early tonight

How to Stay in Ministry over the Long Haul

Reset Garage or the Wrecker’s yard?

Should we burn out for Jesus? 

Facebook Live

Surprising Fruit from Two Brushes with Death

Articles

Is your “Check-Engine Light” On?

A Plea for Holistic Christianity

Preventing Pastoral Burnout

Do you need a reality check?

Healthy Rhythms

Podcasts

Equipping You in Grace Podcast

Reviews

Review by Tim Challies

Review by Nate Claiborne (Christ & Pop Culture)

Review by Robert Zink

Digital Detox

Multiple resources for Digital Detox