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My Life’s Work

Dec 28, 2010 • By David Murray • 0 Comments

HBR have a great series of “Life’s Work” interviews here with what they call “Wildly successful people.” They come from all walks of life, but have one thing in common: they all absolutely love what they do.

You have to subscribe to get the complete interviews (it’s free), but here are some of the quotables that I thought pastors and other christian leaders could profitably reflect upon.

“Early on I didn’t know how to delegate. I was always trying to do other people’s jobs. I learned you’ll drive yourself crazy doing that, and you won’t have good people working for you very long.”
Condoleeza Rice, Former National Security Adviser and Secretary of State.

Q. How do you respond to criticism
“If the criticism is structural or intellectual in nature, and it makes sense in terms of your procedures and what you’re trying to communicate, then you listen to it. If it’s personal—or if it’s a mixture of both—then you become very, very skeptical.”
Richard Serra, Metal sculptor who put himself through Yale by working in a steel mill.

“You usually can’t change people’s minds by the intellect. You’ve got to find something that reaches into their hearts… [But] if you can find a story, if you can make them think and not be defensive, sometimes the toughest person can change.”
Jane Goodall, World’s foremost expert on Chimpanzees.

Q. What do you look for when you hire executive chefs?
“I don’t hire them. I bring them up from my team. The highest level we’ll hire from outside is a line cook.”
Mario Batali, Chef-Entrepreneur.

Q. How do you react when your team is in a slump?
“Number one, you can’t panic. You can’t have a bad week and start throwing things. Your character has to be the same whether you are winning or losing. If it’s not, then you care about the winning and losing more than you do about the people.”
Joe Girardi, Manager of the New York Yankees.

“I can become fanatical about things. I hope in my old age I’m slightly more measured but in order to make something work you often have to often exclude anything else. There may be more intelligent people who don’t have to do that, but I have to. It’s a single-mindedness.”
James Dyson, who created 5,127 prototypes of his Dual Cyclone vacuum cleaner before settling on the model that made him a billionaire.

Q. What made Katharine Graham a great newspaper publisher?
“She loved the newsroom. She was down two, three, four times a day. She couldn’t go home at night without coming down and saying, “Whaddya got? Whaddya got?” That is a wonderful thing for reporters—to see the superboss down there.”
Ben Bradlee, The Washington Post’s executive editor from 1968 to 1991, a period in which the paper won 23 Pulitzer Prizes and exposed the Watergate scandal.

“Preparation is everything. You need to rehearse so you’re confident in the set, you know the songs very, very well and what’s going to happen very, very well. It has to be flawless… On stage you almost have to convince yourself this is the last time. You perform as if you’ve never played it before and you’re never going to play it again.”
Annie Lennox, who sold more than 80 million albums, logged numerous hit singles, and won four Grammys.

“I’m not a physician and a storyteller. I regard the two things as linked… Writing gives one a way of reflecting and re-experiencing.”
Oliver Sacks, professor of neurology and psychiatry at Columbia University, whose books of clinical tales have become bestsellers.

Q. Were you immediately successful?
“I didn’t have a clue. It took me about 10 years to learn the craft—not in school, in the factories. But I was very lucky to have incredible women around me who were mad about what I was doing—Bianca Jagger, Paloma Picasso, Marisa Berenson, so many.”
Manolo Blahnik, perhaps the world’s most famous shoe designer, whose name has become synonymous with luxury.

Leadership lessons from President Obama?

Dec 22, 2010 • By David Murray • 1 Comment

Can pastors and other church leaders learn anything about leadership from President Obama? From President George Bush? From Bill Gates? From General Petraeus? From Chip Kelly?

That’s one of the questions I’d like to answer as we look at the three main resources God has provided to teach us about Christian leadership: His precepts, His patterns, and His providence.

God’s Precepts
God’s Word is obviously the first source of teaching on Christian leadership. The Bible tells us that there are two fundamentals for a Christian leader – spiritual life and moral life. Before anyone can become a Christian leader, they must first become a Christian; they must be born again (John 3:3,10). There can be no spiritual leadership without spiritual life.

But spiritual life is not enough; there must also be a moral life. As Christian leaders lead first and foremost by moral example, God’s moral law – the Ten Commandments – must shape their moral character.

Moreover, a Christian leader must go beyond having spiritual life and a holy life; these are but the basics of every Christian’s life. There are further leader-specific precepts and commands in both the Old Testament (e.g. Josh. 1:7) and in the New (e.g. 1 Tim. 3:2; 2 Tim. 2:24). 

God’s Patterns
In addition to His commands and instructions, God also provides us with models, or metaphors, of leadership: the servant, the shepherd, the captain, the father, the steward, etc.

God also makes these leadership models come alive in the lives of biblical characters, who are frequently set forth as exemplary leaders with unique leadership qualities: Joseph (long-range planning), Moses (meekness), Jethro (delegation), David (team-building), Daniel (courage), the apostles (pioneering), etc.  And of course, the ultimate model, Jesus Christ, combines every leadership quality in perfect proportion and balance.

God’s models are also found in the pages of Church History (e.g. C H Spurgeon, Martyn Lloyd-Jones, Robert Dabney, Charles Hodge, William Wilberforce, etc.) There are also Christian leaders in our own day that the Lord has raised up, whose faith we are to follow (Heb. 13:7). Some of them may be internationally known. Others may be simply the pastors and elders whom the Lord has brought into our lives at various points.

God’s Providence
In His gracious providence, God has given leadership gifts to many outside the Church. They may be Christians or non-Christians, and they may be found in various fields: political, military, sports, business, etc. May we learn from such leaders in some or all of these fields, or not at all? And if so, what safeguards and cautions do we need to put in place to avoid contaminating the church with unbiblical practices?

There are some Christians who say. “No, we may not learn anything about leadership outside the Bible.” I can understand this instinct. Too often the church has become far too much like a corporation, the pastor has become too much like a CEO, worship has become too much like a concert, preaching has become too much like a stand-up comedy, and evangelism has become too much like a marketing campaign. However, these abuses and perversions should not stop us learning even from unbelievers in certain areas and with certain safeguards in place.

I’d like to defend the idea of learning from non-biblical (I did not say unbiblical) sources and then consider a couple of safeguards.

Defense
First, by way of defense, in addition to God’s saving grace, the Reformed Church has usually acknowledged God’s common grace whereby He distributes gifts and abilities to non-Christians for the benefit of His Church and people.

John Calvin used the illustration of spectacles to explain this. He said that the Bible is not only what we read, but what we read with. We use its pages as spectacles to view and read the world and the knowledge, the light of nature, God has distributed throughout it (Inst. 1.6.1).

The human mind, however much fallen and perverted from its original integrity, is still adorned and invested with admirable gifts from its Creator. . . . We will be careful. . . not to reject or condemn truth wherever it appears. (Inst. 2.2.15)

If we regard the Spirit of God as the sole foundation of truth, we shall neither reject the truth itself, nor despise it wherever it shall appear, unless we wish to dishonor the Spirit of God. Shall we say that the philosophers were blind in their fine observation and artful description of nature? . . . No, we cannot read the writings of the ancients on these subjects without great admiration. But if the Lord has willed that we be helped in physics, dialectic, mathematics, and other like disciplines, by the work and ministry of the ungodly, let us use this assistance. For if we neglect God’s gift freely offered in these arts, we ought to suffer just punishment for our sloths (Inst. 2.2.15-16)

Second, there are over 20 models of leadership in the Bible; and they have all been brought in or borrowed from the “world” (the servant, the shepherd, the captain, the father, the steward, etc.) The model was first in the world (by God’s providence of course) and then used by God to teach His Church.

Third, some of the words used for Christian leaders are taken from non-Christian activities:

  • oikonomia  is a noun meaning administration of a household or an office; management of a state or house (e.g. Lk. 16:1-17; 1 Cor. 4:2; Tit. 1:7; 1 Pet. 4:10)
  • kybernesis is borrowed from sailing, and referred to the helmsman or pilot that guides the vessel to its destination (e.g. Acts 27:11; 1 Corinthians 12:28; Revelation 18:17) 
  • episkopos is usually translated “overseer” and originally described a man charged with responsibility of seeing that things done by others are done right (Titus 1:7)
  • proistemi in classical Greek referred to leadership in an army, state or party. It developed a range of meanings including guard, care, be at the head of, have charge over, preside over, lead, represent, sponsor, etc. (Romans 12:8;  1 Thessalonians 5:12 ; 1 Timothy 3:4,12; 5:17; Titus 3:8, 3:14).

Safeguards
What safeguards can we put in place to learn from God’s gracious distribution of truth and gifts outside the church, without “bringing the world into the church.”

1. Biblical precepts and patterns are non-negotiable. If any leadership principle or practice is contrary to the Bible, then it must be rejected. The authority of Scripture stands above everything.

2. Biblical precepts and patterns must be studied most. While we may learn from non-biblical sources, if we are reading the Harvard Business Review and Business Bestsellers more than the Bible, we are in grave danger of drifting from biblical moorings.

3. Biblical precepts and patterns should control the big picture. If we keep the bible’s principles and practice as our overarching control, we can fill in some of the details from non-biblical sources. Here are some examples:

  • The Bible gives us the general principle of time management (Eph. 5:16), but it does not give us much detail about how to do this. We may fill out the details of this general principle by looking at the methods successful people in other fields have used to manage their time.
  • The Bible tells us that we are to be careful listeners, but again does not give us too many details about the “How to.” We can learn a lot from those who have studied the details of listening skills.
  • The Bible tells us we are to be shepherds, but we fill out the details of what that means by studying the character and conduct of ancient and modern shepherds.
  • The Bible tells us we are to teach God’s Word, but we can learn to be more effective teachers from specialists in the field of education.

With these three safeguards in place, we can prayerfully “plunder the Egyptians” for the good of Israel.

1-Step-Plan to Superproductivity

Nov 18, 2010 • By David Murray • 1 Comment

Many Christians have been unnecessarily suspicious of and averse to modern management strategies and organizational techniques. Perhaps some of this stems from the church’s over-reliance on these things at times – especially in the church growth movement. But usually the hostility or disinterest flows from an over-spiritualized view of good works – as if they are only done in church or on Sundays. The rest of the week it’s just ordinary work, or “worldly” work, but certainly nothing to do with “good works.”

Other Christians seem to think that sermons are all they need to live for God’s glory in this world. They think that sermons or Christian books should just automatically produce good works. And they often look down on any helpful insights from non-Christians about how to live in a more efficient and productive way.

That’s why I really appreciate what Matt Perman has been doing at his blog, What’s Best Next, for a number of years. He has been plugging away at persuading Christians how to do good works not just by listening to sermons, but by reading and studying leadership, organization, productivity and administration through the lens of Scripture. Here’s a great post that sums up his whole approach: Productivity is really about good works. And I’d also highly recommend this interview Matt gave to Christianity Today.

There’s always the risk that a re-emphasis on good works in the Christian life, can end up separating the Christian from the source of his/her life, the Gospel of grace. However, from what I can see, Matt is walking the grace/works tightrope very skilfully. I’m eagerly anticipating his book on the subject next year and hope that God will use Matt’s research, insight, and writing gifts to stir up and incite His people to grace-works.

And as we are on the subject, let me give you the 1-Step-Plan to Superproductivity. You won’t like it!

Confident but not sure

Oct 20, 2010 • By David Murray • 0 Comments

On the fundamentals of the faith, we should be bold as lions. We should not be timid and fearful, but dogmatic and certain. We have enough doubters and ditherers.

However, what about issues of guidance? What about discerning the Lord’s will for a new church building or a new outreach program? What about giving counsel to those in complicated relationships? What about areas where there is no clear biblical instruction, or there are strong and persuasive arguments on both sides? Must a pastor teach his millennial view with as much dogmatic certainty as he does justification by faith alone? Should a parent be as decisive in guiding their childrens’ choice of a wife or husband as they are in calling them to Christ? Should this seminary student be recommended to that congregation?

These questions seem to demand a combination of firm biblical wisdom together with a conscious awareness of, “I maybe wrong.” We don’t want to set ourselves up as infallible popes on every area of life, but neither do we want to present our answers and conclusions as mere guesses.

Robert Sutton, Professor of Management Science and Engineering at Sanford University, proposes that great leaders should be “confident but not sure.” He says, “I strive to be confident enough to convince people that I am in charge, but humble enough to realize that I am often going to be wrong.” Sutton recounts an interview with Intel’s then-Chairman, Andy Grove, who said:

None of us have a real understanding of where we are heading. I don’t. I have senses about it. But decisions don’t wait, investment decisions or personal decisions and prioritization don’t wait, for that picture to be clarified. You have to make them when you have to make them. So you take your shots and clean up the bad ones later. I think it is very important for you to do two things: act on your temporary conviction as if it was a real conviction; and when you realize that you are wrong, correct course very quickly.

Sutton says “this balancing act between confidence and doubt is a hallmark of great bosses. The confidence inspires people to follow them and believe in them, but the doubt helps ensure they get things right. They are always listening and watching for evidence that they might be wrong, and inviting others to challenge their conclusions (albeit usually in private and in “backstage” conversations).”

Another way of putting this is that “the best leaders and the best organizations have strong opinions that are weakly held.” Film director Frank Hauser illustrated this:

As the director, you have three weapons: “Yes,” “No,” and “I don’t know.” Use them. Don’t dither; you can always change your mind later. Nobody minds that. What they do mind is the two-minute agonizing when all the actor has asked is “Do I get up now.”

This is one of the hardest balances to find in pastoral ministry, in parenting, and in the Christian life in general: to know when to be confident and sure, and to know when to be confident but not sure. Which areas are non-negotiable and which opinions can be “weakly held.”

Temperament plays a large part in how we find the sweet spot. But find it we must, by knowing the Word and walking in the Spirit. Congregations, families, and relationships have been sunk by doubting and equivocating over non-negotiables. They have also been blown apart by over-bearing over-confidence that cannot distinguish between a fundamental of the faith and the color of the new church carpet.

Deborahs or Jezebels?

Oct 18, 2010 • By David Murray • 8 Comments

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Before I was converted to Christ in the late 1980′s, I was a bit of a political zealot. After a monotonous succession of dull and disastrous male leaders, Margaret Thatcher, the daughter of a small shopkeeper, burst on to the UK scene with clarity, confidence, and courage. She took on the Unions and won. She took on Argentina and won. She took on the media and won. She took on the Labor party and won, and won, and won again. Many powerful men tried to take her on, and lost. Home ownership soared. Multiple privatizations formed a new army of shareholders. The stock market boomed and many made small fortunes.

These were good days to be a young man in the UK, especially if you worked in the financial services industry as I did. Inspired by Mrs Thatcher’s renewal of the UK, I joined the local Conservative party and campaigned for Winston Churchill’s grandson in a lost-cause of a seat in the socialist republic of Glasgow. We spent part of our time running from vicious dogs, and the rest of the time from violent people who didn’t take too kindly to an upper-class Englishman on their territory. The Conservatives seemed to think it was a valuable rite of passage for their rising stars to be battle-scarred while fighting unwinnable seats in the most socialist areas of the country.

The “Tea-Party” women
Anyway, not long after, I was converted to Christ and my life, thankfully, took another direction as my passion for a cross on a ballot was replaced by a passion for the cross of Christ. But I often think back to Margaret Thatcher and the condescending and cruel way the political and media elites treated her, when I see the way that some of the Republican women are being treated in the USA. Although Meg Whitman and Carly Fiorina have suffered to some degree, it’s especially the “Tea-Party” women that are under all-out assault. Like Mrs Thatcher, Sarah Palin, Christine O’Donnell, Sharon Angle, Michelle Bachmann and others come from humble backgrounds. None of them come from big money or famous families. Like Mrs Thatcher (and most “ordinary” people), they have some pretty obvious character flaws and rough edges. Like Mrs Thatcher their “straight-talk” sounds abrasive in a world full of polished spin. Like Mrs Thatcher, they do not cower before power or hide unpopular views. Like Mrs Thatcher, their past life and family connections are often used to embarrass or shame them. Like Mrs Thatcher, they are mockingly impersonated and caricatured. (Yes, we had a Saturday Night Live in the UK then. It was called Spitting Image).

Without approving all that they say and do, I cannot but admire the tremendous courage and tenacity of these women. And I cannot but daily pray for them and their families. Can you imagine what it must feel like for these “ordinary” people and their families to be daily torn asunder and to have their past raked over and over and over. It must be terrifying at times to face the media in interview after interview knowing that every interviewer is out to kill you with questions.

Jezebels?
Yet, I’ve noticed that some Christians feel very strongly that none of these women should be in politics in the first place, and that these “Jezebels” are getting what they deserve for “deserting their families.”

Some of this is motivated by a commendable desire to uphold male headship. They say that women should not take leadership positions over men. I agree that this principle is unquestionable in the Church and in the family sphere. However, is it also true in the civil sphere? Always? Even if it may be the norm, the ideal, for men to lead in the civil sphere, might exceptional times sometimes call for exceptional measures?

For example, think of the time of the Judges. These were anarchic and leaderless times. Israel was hanging on to existence by the skin of its teeth. And just when everything seemed hopeless, God would raise up a Judge, a special temporary leader to deliver Israel from her enemies. These Judges were not so much judicial figures, but rather military deliverers with some limited civil leadership roles. They usually came from humble backgrounds, and had few resources and flawed characters. And one of them, and it was only one, was a woman – Deborah (Judges 4-5). She was a believing woman, and she was a brave woman. In fact her courage is in stark contrast to the cowardly men of the time, like Barak, who were too afraid to take on Israel’s enemies. And to emphasize this contrast, the story concludes with another brave women, Jael, driving a tent-peg through the head of Israel’s arch-enemy. As I said, these were exceptional times!

Deborah was the only female judge. She was not the norm, but the exception. She was a special Judge whom God, in His mighty grace, raised up to rebuke “the establishment” and to expose the cowardly failure of Israel’s male leadership.

Maybe we are living in similar times. And maybe God, in His grace, is raising up more exceptionally courageous “Deborahs” for such a time as this” and for similar purposes. If so, we should pray for these women and their families. And we should also pray that men in politics would hear the divine rebuke and bravely step up to the plate with some straight-talking and some straight-dealing.

Tent-pegs not required.

Learning leadership from ants

Oct 5, 2010 • By David Murray • 0 Comments

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A few weeks ago Ndubuisi Ekekwe, founder of the African Institution of Technology, stopped at a rest area in Connecticut.

As I was resting, I noticed some ants in action. I observed that when one finds food, others immediately gathered to help pull the food to their storage. I decided to disturb the pattern, which unfortunately, resulted in wounding one. Quickly, they came together and evacuated it. Then they re-organized and continued on the line they had created. I saw no form of supervision, yet they were accomplishing tremendous tasks, such as moving pieces of food that were about 30 times their individual sizes.

 

What did he learn:

  • The ants worked as a team
  • The ants trusted one another
  • The ants informed others when they discovered food
  • The ants were partners and of different sizes
  • The ants were diligent and focused 
  • The ants regrouped

His conclusion:

Peter Miller has written that swarming animals, like ants, can teach us a lot about planning, military strategy, and business management. They make decisions as a group and depend on one another to survive. Samuel Haldeman had already observed that these small creatures live in unity, are hard-working, prudent and disciplined. It is no wonder the Biblical Solomon rebuked the lazy man: “Go to the ant, you sluggard; consider its ways and be wise!”

He applies this to business, but there is much for churches to learn here as well (Prov. 6:6-11).

You can read the rest of the article here.

The Leadership Ellipse

Jul 8, 2010 • By David Murray • 0 Comments

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Robert A. Fryling, The Leadership Ellipse, IVP: Formatio, 2010, 221 pages.

Carmen Bernos de Gasztold wrote a collection of poems, The Creature’s Choir, in which she put prayers in the mouths of animals and birds. Robert Fryling’s favorite is “The Peacock” in which this beautiful bird proudly describes its external beauty, while humbly mourning its discordant cry and mournful heart. It ends its lament with “Lord / let a day come / a heavenly day /hen my inner and outer selves / will be reconciled in perfect harmony.”

The thesis of The Leadership Ellipse is that Christian leaders are too often like the Peacock, feeling a painful tension between being and doing, between their inner relationship with God and their external relationship with others. Fryling argues that Christian leadership books tend to focus on one or the other, heightening the tension. His thesis is that, rather than choose between the two, we should aim continuously at both targets. Hence, his central illustration is not of a circular target with a single bull’s-eye, but of an ellipse containing two foci. “One focal point is our inner spiritual life, our longings, our affections and our allegiance to God. The other focal point is our outer world and organizational life, what we do and how we do it.”

The book has three parts: Shaping our Inner World, Shaping our Outer World, and Shaping our Leadership. The first two parts are self-explanatory, although there is some overlap. In part three, Fryling applies the principles of integrated leadership to specific challenges leaders face.

In addition to covering many of the staple Christian leadership bases (prayer, listening skills, relationships, courage, time-management, etc.), the book has three major strengths. The first is its obvious and commendable emphasis on integrating the leader’s outer and inner world. He challenges the activist to be more contemplative, and the contemplative to be more active. If, like most Christian leaders today, you err on the activist side, you will find much in this book to help you redress that imbalance.

And that really leads on to the book’s second major strength, its first chapter, A Weaned Soul: The Practice of Sabbath. I am astonished at how few pastors take a weekly “day off.” This rejection of God’s created order (required even in an unfallen world), eventually takes its toll on the body, the mind, the emotions, the soul, and our relations with others. Fryling speaks very candidly as he demonstrates from his own and others’ lives how he learned, “The Sabbath was made for man.” I cannot recommend this chapter highly enough.

The third area of strength is on pages 201-202, where Fryling (thankfully, though somewhat reluctantly) shares his written “rule of life.” He has written out specific aims and standards of life for his heart soul, mind, strength, family, church and calling. I would not adopt all of these for myself, but I can see the real value in having such a written personal manifesto, and this is a great place to start.

But, I feel I have to raise three caveats. The first is Fryling’s advocacy of some rather unusual spiritual practices. He describes the spiritual benefit that he received from liturgical dance and from reflecting on Van Gogh’s paintings. Also, on pages 92-94, he describes how a team-sandcastle-building project, done in total silence, finished “with one of the most meaningful times of worship” he ever experienced. It involved a cross made out of driftwood, some beach garbage, and a reluctant team member. Maybe others will find it moving and helpful. This Scottish Presbyterian found it a bit bizarre.

The second concern I had was the preponderance of quotes from and favorable references to the medieval church fathers and Roman Catholic theologians: St. Bonaventure, St. Francis of Assisi, Henri Nouwen, Thomas Merton, Albert Haase, Jean Vanier, Jean Pierre de Caussade, St. Benedict, Pope John XXIII, Pope John Paul II, Pope Gregory the Great, etc. This preference for and promotion of Roman Catholic theologians and writers worried me. N. T. Wright is also quoted. There was comparatively little reference to the Reformers, the Puritans, or even present day evangelical and reformed leaders.

The third caveat is that a pastor did not write it. Fryling is the publisher of InterVarsity Press, and the Vice President of InterVarsity Christian Fellowship. He has also occupied various managerial roles in his decades of service with IVP. His book is, therefore, more suited to those who manage and lead in Christian organizations, para-church ministries, charities, etc. Pastors can certainly learn many lessons from Fryling’s book, especially his emphasis on inner/outer integration and the beneficial practice of Sabbath rest. However, it would not be in my first tranche of leadership books for young pastors (although I would want all seminarians to read chapter one).

If you have been pastoring for a few years and need a refresher, or a motivator, or just a new perspective, then I would recommend this book. I think it’s important for pastors, elders, and anyone with responsibility in the church, to be a regular reader of new Christian books on leadership. It’s not so much that you will learn new biblical principles (though you might). But as long as this world keeps changing, you will need to keep learning new applications of these principles. That’s where this book may do you a lot of good.

This review first appeared at TGC Reviews, the book review site of The Gospel Coalition.

The small people

Jul 7, 2010 • By David Murray • 0 Comments

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PR 101: Don’t describe people you have offended and hurt as “small people.”

Unfortunately for BP, their chairman, Carl-Henric Svanberg, missed that class. Brought in to repair BP’s reputation following a series of gaffes by CEO Tony Hayward, Svanberg chose the steps of the White House to say: “We care about the small people. I hear comments sometimes that large oil companies, or greedy companies, don’t care. But that is not case in BP. We care about the small people.”

Svanberg is a Swede and probably did not mean what most people heard when he said “small people.” And although he later apologised, these two words perhaps did more damage to BP’s reputation than the ocean-floor webcam, the oily pelicans, and the brown beaches combined. Justin Taffinder of New Orleans was quick to respond: “We’re not small people. We’re human beings. They’re no greater than us. We don’t bow down to them. We don’t pray to them.”

“We’re not small people.”

Hmmm.

No and yes.

Of course, belittling people and treating them with contempt is always wrong. But, Jesus also told certain “big people” that unless they became “small people” they would not even enter the kingdom of heaven (Matt. 18:1-4). Consider the perfect balance in the words of the enfleshed Word.

1. Become my little ones (v. 1-4)
2. Receive my little ones (v. 5)
3. Protect my little ones (v. 6-9)
4. Value my little ones (v. 10)
5. Find my little ones (v. 11-14)

Svanberg will probably lose his job for his small people comments. But, grasp Jesus’ words and you may save your soul (and others’).

Connected Kingdom (8): Mentoring

Jun 12, 2010 • By David Murray • 0 Comments



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I’m very grateful to Burk Parsons for taking my place on this week’s Connected Kingdom podcast. Burk is editor of Tabletalk magazine and Associate Minister at St. Andrew’s church in Orlando, Florida where he serves with R.C. Sproul. In this episode, Tim and Burk discuss mentoring, a subject that I know is very important to Burk. 

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Leading by silence

May 21, 2010 • By David Murray • 1 Comment

Many people think that leaders should be talkers and answerers. They hear someone who talks more than anyone else, and who seems to have all the answers, and they say, “Wow, he would be a great leader!”

Well, my experience has been the opposite. I find it difficult to respect people who talk all the time, and who seem to think they have all the answers.

And that jives with some recent articles that argue that the best leaders know how to lead by silence and by asking questions (also here). It was Voltaire who said, “Judge a man by his questions rather than answers.”

And isn’t that what we see in Jesus Christ? When I read the Gospels, I don’t find someone who dominated people by excessive talking or by a “know-it-all” attitude. Rather, I find someone who knew when to speak and when to be silent; who knew when to lead by speaking, and when to lead by silence. And I find someone who certainly knew how to ask questions.

Now that’s someone I can respect…and follow.

A leader’s mic is always on

May 13, 2010 • By David Murray • 0 Comments

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Shortly before the British General Election, Prime Minister Gordon Brown was filmed in conversation with 65-year-old Gillian Duffy who expressed concern about the number of foreign workers entering the UK. Brown remained calm and polite throughout, complimented Duffy and her family, finished with “Very nice to meet you,” then jumped in his car to be whisked off to the next photo-opp.

And that’s when he utterly destroyed his already-fading chances of re-election.

Because, forgetting that he was still wearing a microphone from a previous Sky News interview, he complained to an aide about having had to speak to such “a bigoted woman.” Sky News recorded the comments and promptly broadcast them. No amount of apologies or spin could rescue the situation for Brown. His ashen face spelled “political death.”

Reflecting on this, Rosabeth Moss Kanter, at the Harvard Business Review, urges leaders to “act as if the audio is always on…There is no ‘off’ switch for leaders.” She concludes:

Leaders are wise to behave with a consciousness of how other people might view what they do — and the awareness that people probably will view it. That requires truly authentic leaders whose characters are not mental constructions faked for the job but run deeply in their hearts and souls. In the age of social media, instant video feeds via cell phones, and hidden surveillance cameras, this advice about authenticity increasingly applies to everyone who aspires to leadership.

Fellow pastors and elders, read these challenging words again:

That requires truly authentic leaders whose characters are not mental constructions faked for the job but run deeply in their hearts and souls.

And let’s look and aim even higher than the earth-bound and man-centered focus of business leaders and politicians. Because the audio (and video) channels of our lives are feeding into heaven 24/7/365.

Leaders who last

Apr 23, 2010 • By David Murray • 6 Comments

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This review first appeared on The Gospel Coalition’s excellent new book review site, tgcreviews.com. Thanks to Mike Pohlman and John Starke for the great job they are doing there.

Leaders Who Last. Crossway/RE:LIT, 2010. 155 pages.

Not another book on leadership! Yes and no. Yes, it is another book on leadership; but no, not just another book on leadership. This is an exceptional book on leadership, especially on pastoral leadership, and easily finds a place in my top three leadership books.

What stands out is Dave Kraft’s experience. The book exudes the maturity of Kraft’s 70 years of life, 50 years of following Christ, and 40 years of Christian leadership.  It is a book written from the realistic trenches of long Christian service, and bears the unmistakable stamp of a humble Christian man who longs to leave a valuable legacy of leadership wisdom to the Church of Christ. As a taster, how about this for his definition of a leader:

A Christian leader is a humble, God-dependent, team-playing servant of God who is called by God to shepherd, develop, equip, and empower a specific group of believers to accomplish an agreed upon vision from God.

Kraft begins by identifying a major problem: only 30% of leaders last, or finish well. But instead of mistakenly concluding, “See, the church should not have leaders,” Kraft’s biblical premise is, “that you can learn how to be a good leader and finish your particular leadership race well.”

Kraft distances his approach to leadership from the business and marketing model. But he also “warns” that his book is not a “Successful Leaders in the Bible” survey. Rather it is “a personal and extremely practical account of essential leadership principles I have learned and used…a simple, down-to-earth guide to Christian leadership.” However, it is not just a nostalgic meander of inspirational personal anecdotes. It is a tightly and clearly structured book in three sections.

The first covers the leader’s foundations. Kraft uses a memorable hub illustration to show how Jesus Christ is the foundation of the leader’s power, purpose, passion, priorities, and pacing. In the chapter dealing with the leader’s purpose, Kraft relates how, in the office of his daughter’s high school counselor, he read a motto that was to change his life: “Some people come into our lives and quietly go. Others stay awhile, and leave footprints on our hearts, and we are never the same.” That produced a prayer in Kraft’s heart, “Lord, make me a person who leaves footprints in people’s lives. I don’t want to be a person who comes and goes with no lasting impact. Because of contact with me, may people never be the same again. May I be a person who intentionally and lastingly influences others.” And that prayer birthed Kraft’s purpose statement: “To leave footprints in the hearts of God-hungry leaders who multiply.”

The second main section is the leader’s formation. Here Kraft deals with calling, gifts, character, and growth. These chapters demonstrate Kraft’s ability to combine the inspirational with the practical. Some books are inspiring, but you walk away thinking, “That’s amazing….eh, what do I do now?” Other books are so full of step-by-step formulas that you slump defeated and powerless before you even take step one. Kraft is both inspirational and practical. He motivates and empowers, but also leads you through the steps required to turn aspiration into reality.

The third is the leader’s fruitfulness, and this is where Kraft demonstrates the immeasurably huge potential of godly leadership to impact and influence the rising generations. So often leaders can get bogged down in day-to-day administration and crisis management, but Kraft calls us to look much further than the horizon of today, this week, or even this year. He challenges leaders to pour their lives into future leaders: exhort the eager beginner, empower the struggling learner, encourage the cautious contributor, entrust to the independent learner.

The only danger here is that some might focus so much on developing future leaders that they neglect the sheep who will never be shepherds, and ignore the cries of the lost sheep in the wilderness. I know this is not Kraft’s intention, but I have seen this happen when men begin to focus exclusively on their leadership legacy.

With that caveat, I will certainly be adding this book to the required reading in my Leadership course at Puritan Reformed Seminary. In fact, I can see myself re-writing my course and using this as my textbook!

But this book is for far more than seminary students. Kraft would like to see the book in the hands of Sunday school teachers, small-group leaders, volunteer leaders and pastors at all levels of leadership. And even teenagers can profit from this book. How do I know? Well, a couple of Sundays ago I tried an experiment. When we come home from church on Sunday morning, I usually read a Christian biography with my two sons (age 12 and 14). Like all Christian fathers I long to see my sons not only come to faith in Christ and follow Him, but also to become strong pillars in Christ’s Church. So, instead of reading them a biography, I read Leaders who Last to see how they would respond. And they were captivated. We got up to page 47 before their concentration began to wander. They had great questions and conversation continued through Sunday lunch. We will finish it in the coming weeks.

It’s been a long time since I have read such a well-written and well-edited book. With hardly a wasted word, a lifetime of profound leadership wisdom has been packed into 150 pages. You can probably read it in a few hours, but you will read it again…and again. It has the potential to change the rest of your life. And, hopefully, through you many other lives will be changed too – both for time and eternity.

I’ve never met Dave Kraft, and probably never will this side of eternity. But he is one of those rare authors who, after reading, you feel that you not only know them, you love them too!

The two essential traits of great leaders

Apr 16, 2010 • By David Murray • 0 Comments

Any leader aspiring to greatness must do two things, and he must do them not just at supreme moments or occasionally but all the time. Of course, there are many other things a leader must do, but these are the two that matter most: to listen and to tell the truth (Paul Johnson, Forbes Magazine).

Sounds so simple, doesn’t it! Yet, as renowned historian Paul Johnson highlights in his Forbes Magazine column, these are rare individual traits, and even rarer in combination. He does go on to tell some entertaining (and challenging) stories about past Presidents, that Pastors could do well to learn from. Here are my three favorites:

George Washington listened all his life because he loved to learn and because he had no overwhelming desire to speak, unlike most of those in public life. One passion a leader should forgo, if possible, is a love affair with his own voice…Washington, happily, liked the sound of his own silence…When I was writing my book George Washington, I failed to come across any occasion when he had deliberately concealed the truth from anyone who had a right to know it.

Calvin Coolidge…was aptly called “Silent Cal.” He listened courteously to all his visitors but would not be drawn out. He said: “Nine-tenths of a President’s callers at the White House want something they ought not to have. If you keep dead still they will run down in three or four minutes.” So Coolidge would remain mute. Slight twitches of his facial muscles spoke for him. He was described as “an eloquent listener.” When he did speak, however, it was the truth.

Considering all he had to do and say, Abraham Lincoln spoke amazingly little. As he put it, “I am very little inclined on any occasion to say anything unless I hope to produce some good by it.” His Gettysburg Address is a classic instance–there is none better in history–of using as few words as possible (261, to be precise) while conveying a powerful message….Lincoln always endeavored to tell the truth and to ensure that all heard it by clothing it in arresting language.

Read the whole article here.

Failure: the last taboo?

Apr 5, 2010 • By David Murray • 6 Comments

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“Taboo” comes from the Tongan language, and originally had religious connotations. In the West, it has come to mean “a social prohibition or ban relating to any area of human speech or activity.”  Over the last 50 years we have seen most previously taboo subjects and actions “normalized.”

But one great taboo remains in America. Failure. Until the recession. In 12 months, more than 4 million workers lost their jobs. On a single day in January 2009, 70,000 people were laid off, and another 50,000 or 60,000 lost their jobs on each of the 10 days that followed. Most of these people were hard-working, reliable, and conscientious – usually guarantees of success in America. And yet most of these 4 million had to endure a deep sense of personal failure, which affected not just their bank balance, but their marriages, their health, and often their relationship with God. Failure is no longer taboo in suburban America. 

But is that a bad thing? Even secular and humanistic thinkers are viewing failure more positively. Psychology Today ran a series last year called The Failure Interview Series.

Philip Schultz wanted to be a writer. But he was in the “dummy” class, hated to write, and only learned to read when he was 11. When he spoke in school about his writing ambitions, the teacher laughed. Schultz grew up with a deep and daily sense of failure, until he took that ugly lump of unwanted clay and started molding his reflection on failure into a lucrative writing career.

In 2008 Schultz won the Pulitzer prize for a collection of his poems. The title: Failure. The cover: a bent nail in a board. Since then, many have spoken to him of the catharsis of being freed to admit failure, and to talk about their relationship with failure.

Apple founder Steve Jobs ascribes his present success to reevaluating his life after three setbacks: dropping out of college, being fired from the company he founded, and being diagnosed with cancer. 

J.K. Rowling lost her marriage, parental approval and most of her money. But then, with nothing left to lose, she turned to her first love – writing. “Failure stripped away everything inessential,” she said. “It taught me things about myself I could have learned no other way.” 

Michael Jordan said: “I have failed over and over and over again, and that is why I succeed.”

The American chess master Bruce Pandolfini, who trains many young chess players, said: “At the beginning, you lose – a lot. The kids who are going to succeed are the ones who learn to stand it. A lot of young players find losing so devastating they never adapt, never learn to metabolize that failure and to not take it personally. But good players lose and then put the game behind them emotionally.”

Learning to fail well

Learning to “fail well” is a vital part of Christian ministry. A pastor said to me recently, “The first ten years of ministry is all about being broken and stripped!” I must have had a crash course, because it took me only five years to be broken, stripped, and branded a failure! These were dark, dark days. Yet, I know that my 10 months in the school of failure gave me my most valuable degree – a Master’s in how to fail well. Sadly, I keep forgetting what I learned and have to keep going back to that unpopular school for refresher courses.

If we have learned to fail well, we will have realistic expectations of ourselves and our ministries. We will not soar too high on success, and we will not sink too deeply upon a setback. We will not resent or envy the “success” of others. Nor will we get caught up in trying to imitate them. In fact we might worry for them, and want to pray especially for them.

And we take all our failures to our unfailing Lord for His full and free forgiveness. We take our failed evangelism, our failed sermons, our failed pastoral visits, and our failed counseling to the Lord, and pour out our hearts to Him: “Lord, I’ve messed up another sermon…I’ve forgotten to visit that needy soul…I was too scared to speak about you to my fellow-passenger…I’ve misjudged the mood of my elders…I’ve unnecessarily offended that family who left…I was insensitive in counseling…I’m paying for breaking a confidence…” 

But as we confess our failures, we experience the Lord’s unchanging and unconditional love. And we re-emerge…humbler and weaker, but wiser and happier too. And eventually we see how God can transform our ugly failures into something profitable and even beautiful.  

Failure should not be the last taboo in the ministry. Sometimes it’s failure that makes a ministry.

Rebuilding trust: Lessons from Toyota

Mar 2, 2010 • By David Murray • 0 Comments

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Not a good time to own a Toyota. Not a good time to be selling Toyotas. And especially not a good time to be an executive at Toyota. Because, according to Roberta Matuson, the company management has failed to follow the basic steps of rebuilding trust after making a blunder. These are:

1. When you make a mistake, own up immediately.

 

2. Take responsibility for your mistake by beginning your apology with “I” not “the company” or “the institution.”

 

3. Vow to make things right and keep people informed of your progress.

 

4. Re-define expectations by telling people what differences to expect in the future.

 

5. Do what you say you will do and in time you will regain trust.

 

Pastors and churches take note! So many pastoral resignations and church divisions are caused not by the initial blunder, but by the failure to follow these basic steps in responding to it.

And here’s another article that looks not so much at the after-effects of the blunder, but the causes of it. In summary, they were:

1. Over-expansion: the drive for quantity rather than quality
2. Over-complexity: more and more complicated products and services
3. Over-work: stressed-out and burned-out engineers and managers 
4. Over-confidence: underestimated the challenge and overestimated their ability to deal with it
 
Time for some pastors and churches to hit the brakes! And reverse at speed!

(BTW. I’d still buy a Toyota tomorrow)

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Reality check for would-be pastors

Mar 1, 2010 • By David Murray • 1 Comment

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Pastoral ministry is not the only vocation which tends to be idealized by young men. In a recent post, Seth Kravitz (CEO of Insuranceagents.com) took business bloggers to task for over-romanticizing entrepreneurship. “Yes,” he says, “starting a company can be a wonderful experience. It can be empowering, life altering, etc….But what so many business bloggers forget to mention is everything else: stress, anxiety, doubt, heartbreak, sleepless nights, emotional roller coasters, destruction to relationships, lost friends, embarrassment, etc…”

Kravitz lists 20 statements, and challenges would-be entrepreneurs, “How many can you answer ‘Yes’ to?” As I read them, I couldn’t help wondering what a similar list for would-be pastors would look like.

Here are Kravitz’s reality-checking statements. How many of them are transferable to pastoral ministry? What would you add or take away? Which would you qualify or amend?

  1. I am willing to lose everything.
  2. I embrace failure.
  3. I am always willing to do tedious work.
  4. I can handle watching my dreams fall apart.
  5. Even if I am puking my guts out with the flu and my mother passed away last week, there is nothing that will keep me from being ready to work.
  6. My relationship/marriage is so strong, nothing work-related could ever damage it.
  7. My family doesn’t need an income.
  8. This is a connected world and I don’t need alone time. I want to be reachable 24/7 by my employees, customers, and business partners.
  9. I like instability and I live for uncertainty.
  10. I don’t need a vacation for years at a time.
  11. I accept that not everyone likes my ideas and that it’s quite likely that many of my ideas are garbage.
  12. If I go into business with friends or family, I am okay with losing that relationship forever if things end badly.
  13. I don’t have existing anxiety issues and I handle stress with ease.
  14. I am willing to fire or lay off anyone no matter what.
  15. I am okay with being socially cut–off and walking away from my friends when work beckons.
  16. I love naysayers and I won’t explode or give up when a family member, friend, customer, business associate, partner, or anyone for that matter tells me my idea, product, or service is a terrible idea, a waste of time, will never work, or that I must be a moron.
  17. I accept the fact that I can do everything right, can work 70 hours a week for years, can hire all the right people, can arrange amazing business deals, and still lose everything in a flash because of something out of my control.
  18. I accept that I may hire people that are much better at my job than I am and I will get out of their way.
  19. I realize and accept that I am wrong ten times more than I am right.
  20. I am willing to walk away if it doesn’t work out.

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True leadership: opposing our friends

Jan 21, 2010 • By David Murray • 0 Comments

It’s so much easier to oppose our enemies than our friends. In fact, standing up to our friends when they are wrong is perhaps the hardest task and truest test of leadership.

But Ed Welch leads the way with this well-balanced article on depression! Of all the CCEF/nouthetic writers, Ed has by far the best handle on depression. His Blame it on the brain? is also well worth reading.

Thanks, Ed, for for true and courageous leadership!

And thanks so much to Justin Taylor for posting the link to this article. It will help many, many people.

Leadership crisis

Jan 20, 2010 • By David Murray • 0 Comments

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69% of Americans say that we have a leadership crisis in the country today.* 67% say that unless we get better leaders, America will decline as a nation. In some ways, this is not news. For some years, Americans’ confidence in their leaders has been declining. The National Leadership Index picked up slightly in 2009, partly due to many hopes being invested in a new President. But, with the Massachusetts result, even that uptick appears temporary.

One glimmer of hope is that people still have confidence in leadership – a resounding 87% of Americans professed confidence that with the right leaders, the nation’s problems can be solved – just not in the present crop of leaders.

Certain areas are exempt from this downward trend. For example, Americans’ confidence in military leadership continues to grow. Others, such as Wall Street, have sunk to new lows. Only 10% of Americans believe business leaders generally work for the greater good of society, with a large majority saying that corporate bosses work mainly for their own benefit or for a small segment of society with special interests.

Sadly, confidence in religious leadership is below average, even falling below the Executive branch of government. That’s both a rebuke and a challenge to the church. And the challenge is made helpfully specific by the survey’s identification of the six leadership qualities that have the greatest impact on Americans’ leadership confidence, some (all?) of which are relevant for Christian leaders.

  • Trust in what leaders say
  • Competence
  • Working for the greater good
  • Shares your values
  • Being in touch with people’s needs and concerns
  • Results

There are other specifically Christian qualities we could add to this list. For example, Mike Pohlman helpfully highlights Don Carson’s comments on the indispensability of self-denial.

Christian leadership is profoundly self-denying for the sake of others, like Christ’s ultimate example of self-denial for the sake of others. So the church must not elevate people to places of leadership who have many of the gifts necessary to high office, but who lack this one. To lead or teach, for example, you must have the gift of leadership or teaching (Rom. 12:6-8). But you must also be profoundly committed to principled self-denial for the sake of brothers and sisters in Christ, or you are disqualified.

Mike concludes:

Now this would take courage — and great faith — for a search committee or elder board to pronounce a gifted leader or teacher “disqualified” for high office if the candidate lacked obvious “principled self-denial for the sake of brothers and sisters in Christ.” But for the sake of the church, this is the verdict that must be pronounced when this virtue is absent.

 

How do you measure “principled self-denial” in a leader or teacher who you are considering for high office in the church? What are you doing to cultivate this virtue in your own life?

This counter-intuitive virtue is unquestionably the core of Christian leadership. If cultivated, we would unquestionably see increased confidence in Christian leadership. In fact we would see the meaning of: “Follow me, and I will make you fishers of men” (Matt. 4:19).

* National Leadership Index from the Center for Public Leadership at Harvard’s Kennedy School of Government.

Victory through rest and recreation

Jan 20, 2010 • By David Murray • 0 Comments

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Fall 2006, and “Mission Accomplished” was turning into “Mission Impossible” as the USA was slowly yet surely losing the Iraq War.

General George Casey was persisting in the bloody “drawdown to handover” strategy, despite the engulfing disaster. Pete Pace, Chairman of the Joint Chiefs of Staff, was desperate.  Looking for a new strategy, he invited retired Army General Jack Keane (and former vice chief of staff) to a crisis meeting. Bob Woodward reports the encounter in The War Within: A Secret White House History 2006-2008 (p144). “How do you think we are doing?” Pace enquired. Keane was blisteringly frank and direct: “I would give you a failing grade.” Visibly pained, Pace asked, “What do you think I should be doing?” Keane’s advice was startling – tell General Casey to reduce his workload and take time off every day!

“George Casey is at this 24/7. He has nothing to nurture his life. He is completely immersed and isolated by one thing and only one thing. That’s this war. It has completely captured everything he does. His capacity at times to see clearly is always going to be limited and defined by his day-in, day-out experience and the fatigue he suffers.”

Keane said that he thought the obsessive work ethic of the senior military men was self-defeating. “Our generals fight wars today almost at a frenetic pace that is counter-productive,” he said. Compare that to World War II General Douglas Macarthur, who watched a movie every night, Keane said, or Army Chief of Staff George Marshall, who went home every night at a reasonable hour and “rode a horse, for crying out loud, and sometimes took a nap for an hour and a half during the day. And these guys were doing big, important things. You know what our guys are like? They’re at their desks at 6.30 in the morning, and they stay up till midnight.”

It was a manhood issue, Keane thought. Because the soldiers were out there 24/7, the generals thought they better do the same. But the core issue was fresh, clear thinking about the tasks of war.

How many pastors could benefit from this advice!? It is so easy for us to be doing, doing doing; producing, producing, producing; more more more; longer, longer, longer. Yet are we losing battle after battle? And maybe even the war? Is our obsessive work-ethic self-defeating? Is our blinkered desire to prove ourselves real working-men to other working-men destroying our ability to think about the tasks of war in a fresh, clear way?

Many of us have learned from painful experience how vital it is to nurture our lives with daily, weekly and annual rest and recreation. We can certainly find better things to do than watch a movie every night, and safer things to do than go horse-riding in our cities! However, if we are to avoid self-defeating staleness and sameness, we must plan our rest and recreation as religiously as our reading and writing, our preaching and evangelism. And maybe, just maybe, some rest and recreation could turn your present “Mission Impossible” into “Mission Accomplished!”

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What can a 100-year-old coach teach us?

Jan 12, 2010 • By David Murray • 0 Comments

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The old coach entered the office of a much younger coach and asked, “Got a minute?”

 


 

The old man, then 85, showed the coach a medal he had won as a young track star many decades before. Inscribed on the back of the medal were the words, “Friends. Family. Health.” Then the old man said, “When you are done coaching, make sure you’ve got those three things and that you keep them with you.”

 


 

The old coach was Red Simmons, the founding coach of the women’s track program at Michigan State University, and also a member of the 1932 U.S. Olympic team. Now 100, yet still going strong, his advice is also applicable to under-pressure, performance-driven, or workaholic pastors. John Baldoni, who reported this story, comments:

 


 

 

Not only do these three words – friends, family, health — anchor a leader’s life, they provide him or her with a perspective on how to treat others. Leadership is rooted in self awareness but leadership is an outward focused mindset that emphasizes responsibility for others 

 

Friends. Family. Health. It’s a good framework for keeping your leadership and your life in perspective.

 

 

 

 

Sadly, some pastors have ended their ministries with none of these. And the cause was not faithfulness.

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