Comments on: How to catch a liar

By: shammy

shammy — Sun, 26 Jun 2011 18:34:06 +0000

I have had to deal with a man for about 5 months to where i was supporting him financially and emotionally, but at the same time his behaviour was just something that i was not able to accept. He made it seem like I was always starting an argument, WAS RUDE TO HIM, harsh in the way i talk, and disrespectful, and despite of it all He so claims that HIS LOVES ME N I WAS THE WOMAN HE WAS LOOKIN FOR ALL HIS LIFE. If i was to confront him about anything, he always had an answer, which just lead me to believe that he was rather a great salesman, and if he had to ,would most likely sell his own MOTHER. I have tried very hard to be as open and upfront with this man but he just stuck to his story, but i was on to him. I think I was getting too close to exposing him, and when I told him to move out, he moved in less than 36 hours. Still claims “I love u” and dont hear from him for days. With this relationship, I m very hurt, broken hearted, ashamed, emotionally, financially and mentally drained, and trusting another man is far from even wanting to go out on a date.I feel that i made the right choice and living a peaceful and calm life. Sincerely Shammy

By: David Murray

David Murray — Fri, 24 Jun 2011 05:10:29 +0000

That looks like a fascinating book, James.

By: James Boyd

James Boyd — Wed, 22 Jun 2011 17:22:48 +0000

The comments on body language are consistent with “What every BODY is saying”:http://www.amazon.com/What-Every-BODY-Saying-Speed-Reading/dp/0061438294The main thrust of the above book is to teach how to discern as to whether someone is comfortable or uncomfortable, and principally how they change in a situation between the two.For example:If someone’s feet are always facing the door then they probably don’t want to talk with you, but if they turn towards the door at a particular line of questioning, it suggests those questions are getting near what they don’t want to talk about. The former suggests a state of discomfort, which wouldn’t indicate much, but the latter suggests the particular questions are causing the discomfort.The author was in the line of police interrogation, so he was at liberty to probe deeply into what appeared to be uncomfortable. When the individual was appearing comfortable, he might return to a question that had encouraged discomfort. I’m hoping to start using this more when people are knocking at the door selling a service; if I’m unsatisfied with how they say something to simply ask the question again – if they are again uncomfortable then there’s probably good reason for it.The body largely shows how the person feels so you do have to examine what they’re saying too – you seem to have picked up some very useful points there!

By: R. Martin Snyder

R. Martin Snyder — Wed, 22 Jun 2011 16:13:10 +0000

Thanks for teaching me how to lie. LOL. Now I have another sin to deal with. lol. Good spot Dr. Very enlightening. One must also consider the persons temperament when looking at this also.

By: Karl Fischer

Karl Fischer — Wed, 22 Jun 2011 15:52:02 +0000