https://headhearthand.org/blog/2015/09/09/divorce-for-pornography/  Informing Minds. Moving Hearts. Directing Hands. Thu, 30 Apr 2026 22:21:00 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=3.8.41 https://headhearthand.org/blog/2015/09/09/divorce-for-pornography/#comment-48314 Thu, 01 Oct 2015 19:21:19 +0000 http://headhearthand.org/?p=22118#comment-48314 […] Divorce for Pornography? – David Murray raised the question, and a bunch of folks raised some Cain before he closed the comment section. I appreciate his lucidity and candor. […]

]]> https://headhearthand.org/blog/2015/09/09/divorce-for-pornography/#comment-48311 Thu, 01 Oct 2015 12:01:04 +0000 http://headhearthand.org/?p=22118#comment-48311 […] Divorce for Pornography? – David Murray raised the question, and a bunch of folks raised some Cain before he closed the comment section. I appreciate his lucidity and candor. […]

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]]> https://headhearthand.org/blog/2015/09/09/divorce-for-pornography/#comment-48240 Sun, 13 Sep 2015 05:45:00 +0000 http://headhearthand.org/?p=22118#comment-48240 After reading many of the comments, I am looking for someone to speak more to the way hard core pornography mars the beautiful picture of the oneness of Christ and his bride, the church, of which marriage is supposed to be a type. Hearing the heartache of many women on these posts makes me weep for two reasons, the bitter betrayal of a loved one and the separation it causes, and the picture this reflects of God’s heart when His children go whoring after other gods. Does this reflection have any merit to this discussion of divorce?

]]> https://headhearthand.org/blog/2015/09/09/divorce-for-pornography/#comment-48239 Sun, 13 Sep 2015 04:49:00 +0000 http://headhearthand.org/?p=22118#comment-48239 Honestly, I am not sure this debate is healthy for us given the suffering you have went through. I will pray for you and your family right now however my sister in Christ!

]]> https://headhearthand.org/blog/2015/09/09/divorce-for-pornography/#comment-48238 Sun, 13 Sep 2015 04:45:00 +0000 http://headhearthand.org/?p=22118#comment-48238 This is really a an emotionally charged topic and I have a serious question and not just a snide remark. I understand the destruction this can bring but we cannot be making up new rules for divorce. It appears to me that many here forget that you can be separated for a lifetime and not divorce. Nobody is asking these women to stay in the same house and be stepped all over. You can live separately and if he decides to leave and be unrepentant then yes based of 1 Corinthians you can grant him a divorce that is you do not initiate the divorce. The vow of marriage is not to be broken. What I think you are confusing here are legitimate reasons for a woman to leave the home and separate such as porn or physical abuse and conflating that with divorce where you can then find another spouse. The vow of marriage a covenant before God is so serious that you can live separately but not dissolve this vow you made to Him. It is hard and I am not sure I could do it.

]]> https://headhearthand.org/blog/2015/09/09/divorce-for-pornography/#comment-48237 Sun, 13 Sep 2015 04:43:00 +0000 http://headhearthand.org/?p=22118#comment-48237 Yes a vow my father broke. Pharisees always added to the law. Kind of like when Eve said she could not e a t or touch the tree. God did not say she could not touch. Nor does Paul teach that if you join yourself to a harlot you are forever joined. Scripture says that nowhere. Porn always is accompanied by self sex whixh is outside the marriage bed. It is wicked and not God’s design. All sexual activity outside of the heterosexual marriage bed is immoral. If God wanted Adam to have self sex he would have given him porn and not a real woman to be intimate. God said it is not good for man to be alone and that he needed a helper. Porn thumbs its nose at God and His design for marriage. It is sexual anarchy and selfish.

]]> https://headhearthand.org/blog/2015/09/09/divorce-for-pornography/#comment-48236 Sun, 13 Sep 2015 04:31:00 +0000 http://headhearthand.org/?p=22118#comment-48236 I am deeply sorry to hear that I know the pain is real. I am again not saying that I do not understand the destruction porn can bring nor down playing that it is a sin dragging many people down the road of perdition. What I am saying is that the vow of marriage is so serious God will not allow such an ugly thing like divorce to solve it. Separation I totally understand even if it means to live separate until death does you part. THAT IS THE VOW. I am a big believer in the sanctity of marriage. God wants us to keep our marriage vows even if it means living apart from an abusive spouse, drug abusing spouse, or unrepentant use of pornagraphy. By means live separate apply church discipline until this resolves and it may not. But you are not to give up on this person in your prayers and not to divorce them. Only under three circumstances does God allow the dissolution of marriage and allow you to find a new partner death , Physical adultery, and if an unbelieving spouse leaves.

]]> https://headhearthand.org/blog/2015/09/09/divorce-for-pornography/#comment-48235 Sun, 13 Sep 2015 04:28:00 +0000 http://headhearthand.org/?p=22118#comment-48235 Let me add that I needed to be protected from him and provided for. We were poor because of his sin and at risk. He took me with him to get high one day, smoke marijuana with me in the car, and I found his porn as a child. This is a fallen world and women and children are always vulnerable with husbands and fathers like this. My mother did right. I am sorry they got divorced, but I understand and do not blame her. She had biblical grounds. We all might have gotten killed or molested. Mom is well, Dad is a mess. He has 7 kids by 5 women and o ly two of us speak to him. I am one of the two. May God save his soul.

]]> https://headhearthand.org/blog/2015/09/09/divorce-for-pornography/#comment-48234 Sun, 13 Sep 2015 04:21:00 +0000 http://headhearthand.org/?p=22118#comment-48234 Pharisees gave it out only to men and for unbiblical nonsense just so they could have a new woman and not sexual impurity. Divorce leaves carnage. I know. My parents split when I was 9 and divorced when I was a teen. My mother did all she could but my porn, drug addicted, philandering father never gave those things up. He will face an angry, holy God for causing the demise of his marriage and his children being fatherless if he doesn’t repent.

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