The Happy Fruits of a Digital Diet

Here’s Jake’s testimony to the positive power of a digital detox in his life. I hope it inspires you in similar ways.


A year and a half ago I visited Pastor Martin. My visit bore two fruits: one is that he had lovingly admonished me about the weight I had gained since he last saw me (about 30 lbs). Since then I’ve put off that weight. The second is that he recommended the book by Nicholas Carr, The Shallows: What the Internet is Doing to Our Brains.  I purchased the book from Amazon and began reading on my flight home back to Texas (yes, on my Kindle app). It changed how I viewed the internet and the impact of technology on the mind. Quotes such as this one stuck with me:

I can’t read War and Peace anymore. I’ve lost the ability to do that. Even a blog post of more than three or four paragraphs is too much to absorb. I skim it.

It alarmed me that the untrained use and unrestricted allowance of the interference of technology in my life may have impaired my capacity to think and reason. I could relate to these words. Somehow reading had become difficult and focus elusive. Rarely did I ever enter into a state of deep concentration. When I made the attempt it was more frustrating than fruitful. My natural memory was quite poor, although it had been good when I was a child.

Two-Phase Recovery
After I finished the book in the Kindle app (which, ironically, prompted me to rate and review the book) the germ of resolution was planted in my heart to not let technology rule my ability to reason, think, remember or concentrate. My “recovery” took two phases: one was to rediscover how it is the mind should work (ie. how it should have been working without the impairment of untrained use of electronic devices), and I did this by reading and listening to what I could find on memory, concentration, attention, and improvement of the mind. The second phase was a more aggressive digital detox.

My digital detox meant seeking out the unwanted intrusions of technology in my daily life, and disabling them. I turned off e-mail notifications on my phone. I silenced all text and WhatsApp alerts except for messages that I get from Lydia. I had a weakness for browsing Facebook, and so I set an near-impossible password which I would have to cut and paste from an Excel document to log in. It was the only way I could keep myself from mindlessly logging on for amusement and wasting a daily half hour on trivialities.

I took some aggressive steps at my job too. I disabled e-mail pop-up notifications in Microsoft Outlook, and I disabled the sound alert my computer makes when I receive a message. Now I do not know that I’ve received any e-mails unless I make the effort to check. I work long hours this time of year because I am a CPA, and so I’ve come into the office quite early (6:00 AM) and I began shutting my door so I cannot be interrupted. As for the rest of the day, when it wouldn’t be appropriate to have the door shut all the time, I put in earplugs. The response wasn’t so negative as I feared, and a few seemed to think it was wise. I also stopped listening to podcasts and sermons while I work.

Robbed by Multi-tasking
Before the digital detox, if a problem came up I would get frustrated and struggle to fix it because I could not keep my thoughts together. My work rarely felt satisfying, and I would check my phone as a “quick escape” from whatever bothered me at the moment. I also did not realize that listening to sermons or lectures or music was robbing me of much-needed energy for focus, attention and memory. I spent much time answering distractions (texts, e-mails) and spent precious time trying to get my bearings and to refocus again.

I saw and experienced real, tangible changes. After detoxing, problems did not frustrate me so badly anymore, and I could get into a mindset to diagnose the problem and confidently resolve it. I found great satisfaction in my work. I bought myself hours of time where nobody and nothing would distract me from my work, and I could enter that state of deep focus and concentration. I began to enjoy a world of silence, even absent of the roar of traffic on the tollway outside my window. This is where I found myself doing my best and happiest work. In the midst of a heavy busy season I could keep a cool head and tackle issues confidently and effectively. I also found I could no longer listen to sermons or podcasts while working, even for the most rote of tasks. It demanded a portion of my mental energies which I had now learned to wholly use on the job, and a divided attention was a fast drain on my mental capacity.

It’s made a difference outside of work. I remember coming to an appreciation of a world where the phone did not always interrupt, where conversations with my wife were not disturbed by a text alert.

Spiritual Fruit
I believe it may have also produced spiritual changes. I had noticeably less difficulty getting myself into a focused state for devotions, and the fruitfulness of my meditations increased. My mind wanders less when I pray. I can focus better during sermons, even with a two-year-old at my side. The frustration that I would experience thinking through hard spiritual matters wasn’t there anymore, or at least not to the same degree. The most wonderful fruit of digital detox is the enlarged capacity to be a happier, more joyful Christian.

More Digital Detox resources here.


Digital Detox Roundup

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A Face-to-Face Request Is 34 Times More Successful than an Email | Vanessa K. Bohns, HBR

Despite the reach of email, asking in person is the significantly more effective approach; you need to ask six people in person to equal the power of a 200-recipient email blast. Still, most people tend to think the email ask will be more effective.

Along similar lines, read Learn to Lead Through the Power of Presence, which highlights how technology has given us fantastic tools, but has diminished the leadership art of presence.

To be a leader in your organization you must embrace the idea that a call or visit is sometimes the prescription for moving the needle, managing conflict and building strong relationships.  Here are 5 principles you should incorporate in your leadership routines:

  1. Pick up the phone when projects are stuck.
  2. With critical projects, visit peers and leadership face to face.
  3. Speak face-to-face in tense or combative situations.
  4. Send feedback after phone or face-to-face meetings.
  5. Call or visit when nothing is pressing.

If It’s Hard To Imagine A Day Without Your Phone, You Need To Do It | Gracy Olmstead, The Federalist

We’re all about cleanses and detoxing these days. Sometimes we emphasize these things to extremes. But perhaps an occasional break can show us what we’re missing—and prompt us to foster better habits throughout our daily lives.

The idea of a “day without devices” would be a similar concept to the idea of Meatless Mondays, just focusing on technology instead of food. It could focus on a day trip somewhere fun—to hike, picnic in the park, visit a museum, go on a bike ride, or explore a new neighborhood.

Amazon launches new features aimed at making parents’ lives easier | Nicole Gallucci, Mashable
Amazon introduces a new way to keep track of your kids’ media time with their new “Parent Dashboard.”

10 Things You Should Know about Your Smartphone | Crossway.org

  1. Your smartphone is not all bad.
  2. Your smartphone is not all good.
  3. Your smartphone amplifies your addiction to distractions.
  4. Your smartphone pushes you to evade the limits of embodiment.
  5. Your smartphone feeds your craving for immediate approval.
  6. Your smartphone undermines key literary skills.
  7. Your smartphone offers a buffet of produced media.
  8. Your smartphone overtakes and distorts your identity.
  9. Your smartphone need not have these negative affects (sic) on you.
  10. Your smartphone can be a tool for knowing and enjoying God.

How to be a Tech-Wise Family & manage kids, technology & family | Andy Crouch

All the best things we want for our families—our children and ourselves—involve creating, rather than consuming.

And the best way to have a creative life, rather than a consumer life, is to make it part of the furniture.

Fill the center of your life together—the literal center, the heart of your home, the place where you spend the most time together—with the things that reward creativity, relationship, and engagement.

Push technology and cheap thrills to the edges; move deeper and more lasting things to the core.

Cellphones, conferences, entertainment, and hockey | The Upward Call
Kim was shocked at what she saw at a recent hockey game.

What If My Husband Looks at Porn? | Kara Garis, Desiring God
Kara offers an honest testimony and six points of advice for women who find themselves in this awful situation.

  1. You, sweet woman, are not in a battle against your husband.
  2. His sin is not your body’s fault.
  3. Embrace Jesus’ sovereignty and trust him for your husband.
  4. Your sin of bitterness is not justified.
  5. He needs you and your forgiveness now more than ever.
  6. Your husband is not your savior and you are not his.

Can We Gain the Whole World Wide Web without Losing Our Souls? | Amy Simpson

If the Internet doesn’t deliver on authentic connection, what keeps us coming back? Are we lured by the possibility of true connection, or have we become content to substitute participation and opportunities for self-expression? Perhaps we’re afraid of being left out or missing out on something we should know. Either way, most of online “connection” pales in comparison to the kind of connection we can find with people in the same room. Ironically, though, in our quest for connection in a virtual world, we often ignore the people we can see and touch.


Should we seek to burn out for Jesus?

I love energetic, ambitious, zealous young Christian men. What a gift to the church they are! And I want them to do whatever their vocation leads them to do—go for it. However, there are dangers if you make unwise choices.

What we don’t realize when we’re young is that we all have a limited amount of life fuel. And we can either expend all of it in the first decade of our working life and and then suffer for the rest of it, or we can pace ourselves, being refueled along the way as well. It’s something I wish I’d learned when I was younger that if you pace yourself, it’s not that you’re being lazy, it’s that you’re being wise.

Read the rest of this video transcript at the Crossway blog.


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Lies at the Heart of Addiction

It doesn’t matter what kind of addiction it is – drink, drugs, food, gambling, porn, spending, tanning, people-pleasing, people-critiquing, control, digital technology, etc. – lies are at the heart of them all. That’s why Jesus said to religious addicts, ”You shall know the truth and the truth shall make you free.”

Every addict tells four kinds of lies: lies about God, lies about themselves, lies about the sin, and lies about others. The only way to deliver addicts is to rip out these lies and replace them with truth.

Here’s a sampling, and it’s just a sampling, of the lies that addicts tell; and a sampling of the truths that can root them out and replace them.

Lies About God

Lie: God is not Good. He’s just being a spoilsport in forbidding this sin. The sin is good and God is bad.

Truth:  God is good to all and does good to all. His law is an expression of his goodness (Ps. 145:9; 119:68; Rom. 7:12).

Lie: God is not all-seeing. He can’t really see me when I do this.

Truth: God sees all people, all things, all events, at all times (Ps. 139:1-16; Prov. 15:3)

Lie: God is not judge. He will not call me to account for this.

Truth: We will give account for every deed done or not done, in public and in private (2 Cor. 5:10; Rom. 2:16)

Lie: God is not Savior. I’ve sinned too much for God to save me. There’s no point in even trying to be saved.

Truth: Whoever, whoever, whoever calls upon the name of the Lord will be saved. (Rom. 10:13; 1 John 1:9; John 6:37)

Lie: God is not enough. God will not satisfy me as sin does.

Truth: There is more than enough in God to satisfy the hungriest and thirstiest soul (Ps. 63:3-5; John 7:37)

Lies About Self

Lie: I don’t have a problem. I mean I sin, even quite a lot, but it’s not an addiction.

Truth: Whoever commits sin (lit. continues to practice sin) is a slave of sin (Rom. 6:16; John 8:34)

Lie: I’m not as bad as others.

Truth: Our standard of comparison is God’s Word, not other people (2 Cor. 10:12).

Lie: It’s not harming me.

Truth: Every sin hardens our hearts (Heb. 3:13) and ultimately ends in death (James 1:15).

Lie: If only you knew how hard and exceptional my circumstances are.

Truth: Your situation is common to many and they don’t resort to such sins (1 Cor. 10:13).

Lie: I cannot change and I cannot escape.

Truth: God always provides an escape route and he can give real freedom to anyone (1 Cor. 10:13; John 8:36).

Lies about Sin

Lie: This habit makes me happy.

Truth: Maybe, but it’s a very brief and fleeting happiness that leaves a bitter taste (Heb. 11:24-26).

Lie: This helps me forget my past.

Truth: The most important thing is for God to forget your past (Heb. 8:12).

Lie: Now is not a good time to stop.

Truth: Now is the accepted time, today is the day of salvation (2 Cor. 6:2).

Lies About Others

Lie: Those condemning me and trying to stop me are my enemies.

Truth: Those who try to stop you sinning are actually your best friends and they’re doing you a great kindness (Prov. 27:6; Ps. 141:5).

Lie: It’s my parents’/abuser’s/husband’s/wife’s fault.

Truth: When Adam blamed Eve, and Eve blamed the snake, God blamed and punished all of them (Gen 3:14-19; Ezek. 18:20). The soul that sins, it shall die.

Lie: This doesn’t affect others.

Truth: Do you need a Bible verse for this? Just ask those around you what the truth is.

Lie: People are just objects.

Truth: Your porn addiction feeds its lust on divine image-bearers. You are watching people made in the image of God (Gen. 1:27). You are abusing the divine image for your sexual pleasure.

Whatever you are addicted to, try to find the lies at its heart and then attack them with God’s powerful truth. “You shall know the truth and the truth shall make you free.”


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The Heart of Addiction by Mark Shaw.

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