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Blogs

Become an Iceberg Pastor | TGC
“Among the many and varied jobs that need to get done in church life, a pastor must carve out time to grow, and that is part of his job.”

Helps for Doubting Christians | Ligonier Ministries Blog: Bill Boekestein
“Sooner or later every thoughtful Christian will feel the unsettling, soul-gripping claw of doubt. Some of us might struggle with intellectual doubt. How do I really know God exists? How can I be sure that Jesus is the only way to heaven? Some of us might struggle with circumstantial doubt. How can God be good when there is suffering in the world? If God is my Heavenly Father, why did I lose my job?”

Why 734 Pastors Quit (and How Their Churches Could Have Kept Them) | ChristianityToday.com
“No sabbatical. No help with counseling. No clear picture of what’s expected. Hundreds of former evangelical pastors say these were the crucial elements missing from the final churches they led before quitting the pastorate.”

Before the Birds and the Bees | Tim Challies
“I want to say this as clearly as I know how: If you neglect to train your children in their use of the Internet, you are failing in your parental responsibility. If you neglect to monitor what your children are doing online, you are neglecting your duty. If you are going to allow them to use the Internet-and I think you should so they can learn to use it under your care-you absolutely need to train them to use it well. To train them well you simply need to engage them in the tech talk. ”

Raising Up Encouragers | Gentle Reformation: James Faris
“What can we learn from Barnabas to encourage us to become more able encouragers? What characterizes the life of an encourager? Here are five characteristics of an encourager that we see in the life of Barnabas”

Kindle Books

Preaching: The Art of Narrative Exposition by Calvin Miller $1.99.

Longitude: The True Story of a Lone Genius Who Solved the Greatest Scientific Problem of His Time $1.99. Another one for a winter weekend.

Or if you want to find out about the second most important country in the world right now, you could try this 500 page “summary” of China’s history.

China: A History $1.99.

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This $25 Cardboard Sit-Stand Desk Means You No Longer Have An Excuse To Sit
“It’s possible to spend hundreds-or even thousands-on a sit-stand desk that will remind you to get up if you’ve been slouched in front of your computer too long, or even train you to stand longer if you’re out of shape. But if all you need is something to pop up and down and hold your computer, now it’s possible to buy that for $25.”

 


The Rich Rewards of Friendship

How many men have real friends?

Only 10%, according to a survey of America’s leading psychologists and therapists.

In chapter 1 of The Friendship Factor: How to Get Closer to the People You Care for, Alan Mcginnis begins his campaign to change this by discussing some of the benefits of friendship, parts of which I’ve summarized below:

Friendship is the springboard to every other love

If we can learn to be skilled at friendship, we will also be good at attracting the opposite sex, building efficient teams at work, getting along with our parents, rearing our children, and staying tight with our mates.

Friendship restores and renews the soul

In my work as a psychotherapist during these ensuing years, I have become more convinced than ever that a restoring and renewing power resides in friendship. If people availed themselves of the love available to them, many therapists like me could close up shop.

Friendship is Christlike

Jesus placed great value on relationships. He chose to spend much of his time deepening his connections with a few significant persons rather than speaking to large crowds. What is more, his teaching was filled with practical suggestions on how to befriend people and how to relate to friends.

Friendship extends life

In his book The Broken Heart, Dr. James J. Lynch shows that lonely people live significantly shorter lives than the general population. Lynch, a specialist in psychosomatic disease, cites a wealth of statistics to demonstrate the unhealthy aspects of isolation and the magical powers of human contact.

Friendship helps our careers

Studies many years ago at what was then the Carnegie Institute of Technology revealed that even in such fields as engineering, about 15 percent of one’s financial success was due to one’s technical knowledge and about 85 percent was due to skill in human engineering — to personality and the ability to lead people. Dr. William Menninger estimated that when people are fired from their jobs, social incompetence accounts for 60 to 80 percent of the failures. Technical incompetence accounts for only 20 to 40 percent.

The Friendship Factor: How to Get Closer to the People You Care for by Alan Mcginnis.

Although The Friendship Factor is written from a Christian perspective, if you want less psychology and more Bible, try The Company We Keep: In Search of Biblical Friendship by Jonathan Holmes.


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Giving Your Pastor Sermon Feedback | Erik Raymond
Three reasons why and four helps to do it well.

Abortion Kills Two Hearts | Russell Moore
“If being pro-life means anything, it means having a word not just for those walking toward the abortion clinic, but also for those walking out of it. We must have something to say when we see in our churches those women and men whose throbbing consciences are crying out against them. What do we tell them?”

When Sexual Integrity Crashes at Your Church – A Pastor’s Response | Lifeway
“As Christian leaders how we respond when someone inside our organization is discovered in sexual sin is of utmost importance. One key to responding well is to set the tone before anyone needs such help.”

Life on the waitlist | Aaron Armstrong
“Here’s what I think God’s really been doing in this season of waiting — he’s been reminding me that I need to actually live to the fullest in the present.”

Worth It | The Christward Collective: Jason Helopoulos
“My friends, we will never regret the time that we spend sacrificing for others for the sake of the Kingdom. We will never regret the effort employed in fight ing sin for the sake of the Kingdom. We will never regret the energy spent seeking righteousness for the sake of the Kingdom. Whatever we give for the Kingdom we will never regret. I dare say, we will never want a refund, never want to exchange this Kingdom for something else, never want a redo, because its value far surpasses all that we would so-call sacrifice in the here and now. I am no prophet, but I would give you this guarantee, if you invest in the Kingdom you will never walk away disappointed. Never.”

J. I. Packer’s Rare Puritan Library Now Digitized to Be Read Online for Free | Justin Taylor
“The John Richard Allen Library in Vancouver—which hosts the joint collections of Regent College and Carey Theological College—has now made available their entire rare Puritan collection to be read online for free. What a gift of modern technology to help us recover these gifts from the church of the past.”

I run a Silicon Valley startup – but I refuse to own a cellphone | The Guardian
“As awareness has grown about my phone-free status (and its longevity: this is no passing fad, people – I haven’t had a phone for over three years), I have received numerous requests to “tell my story”. People seem to be genuinely interested in how someone living and working in the he art of the most tech-obsessed corner of the planet, Silicon Valley, can possibly exist on a day-to-day basis without a smartphone.”

Kindle Books

The Fringe Hours: Making Time for You by Jessica Turner $1.99. This looked like an intriguing book on an important subject. I bought a copy for Shona and plan to read it myself too.

Coming Clean: A Story of Faith by Seth Haines $1.99. Looks like this book will give insight into the struggles and challenges addiction.

The Toyota Way: 14 Management Principles from the World’s Greatest Manufacturer $1.99. I like to skim books like these for general knowledge, insight into successful companies, sermon illustrations, and just relaxing. Also keeps one of my deacons happy :)

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Woman to Marry the Marine who Saved her Life
Because we need all the good news stories we can get.


What Drives Driven Pastors?

Although there are lazy pastors around, there are also a huge number of pastors who are working flat-out 60-80 hours a week. Every week. What’s motivating them? What’s driving them to such superhuman levels of busyness?

Some are motivated by the Gospel. What higher and holier motive can there be than the spread of the Gospel of Christ, the salvation of souls, the building of Christ’s church, and the manifestation of God’s glory?

Such godly men have to be careful that their love for the Gospel and for souls does not lead to burnout. As they age, they usually need to adjust their pace and hours downward if they are to have any long-term usefulness.

Some men, though, have less exalted motives, including:

1. Fame. Yes, it’s sadly possible to work thousands of hours a year in Gospel work and be motivated almost entirely by the promotion and polishing of one’s own name and reputation.

2. Money. Due to the number of Christians in the some countries, there is a large and lucrative evangelical marketplace for books, conferences, and other religious products that can easily become the focus of some men’s work and ministries.

3. Guilt. Some men enter the ministry to “make up” for moral and spiritual failings in their past. For these sweating laborers, the ministry has become a sort of evangelical penance that they hope they can eventually do enough of in order to atone for their record. They may preach grace but they’ve lost sight of the Gospel for their own souls and end up trying to please God with more and more hours, more and more sacrifice.

4. Man-pleasing. Through feelings of insecurity, they pour themselves into other people’s lives in order to feel needed, wanted, and appreciated.

5.  Showing off. Some ministers feel the need to prove themselves “real men” with “real jobs.” They busy themselves especially with work that can be seen and noticed in order to convince other men that they are equally tough and hard.

6. Identity. Some pastors and missionaries fall into the trap of making their work and work rate their primary source of identity, the main way they think about themselves and want others to think about themselves too.

7. Escape. Some are running away from their marriages and their children, especially if there are problems at home. Far more glamorous to be touring the country saving souls than dealing with the mess at home.

8. Pleasure. Others are driven by the pleasure of ministry – pastoral hedonism, if you like. It can be so enjoyable to prepare sermons, preach, counsel, lead, etc., especially when Gospel fruit is being produced. This can result in a severe work/life imbalance and calls for some painful self-denial.

9. Control. I’ve known pastors who feel that they must be involved in every area of church life and even the minute details of individual Christians’ lives. They cannot trust God or His people with anything, but feel they must do and decide everything if the church is to survive.

10. Arminianism. I couldn’t sleep at night if I was a consistent Arminian. Which pastor could close their eyes if their salvation depended on their own will and the salvation of others depended on their own efforts. It must also be said that many theoretical Calvinists are practical Arminians.

When we read through this list, who cannot but confess that all of us have mixed motives in all that we do, even in the holy duties of preaching and pastoring?

Let’s take this list to the Lord, confessing the hideous mixture that attends all our labors, and enjoy the purifying effect of the blood of Christ on both our past guilt and our future motives.


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Blogs

Hope for the Young Pastor
Here is some advice to young pastors from a young pastor.

A Free Bible Study on How to Change the Way You Think, Act, and Experience Life | David Powlison
“This study is meant to change the way you think, act, and experience life. It is then meant to change the way you help others.” And here’s The Gospel, Breaking Sinful Patterns, and Addiction from Ed Stetzer

Seven reasons why you shouldn’t read 1 Timothy 6:1-2 as an endorsement of slavery | Denny Burk
“Have you ever faced a skeptic-maybe a family member or a friend at work-who threw slavery at you as evidence that the Bible can’t be trusted?” Denny provides a biblical defense.

More Goodness Showed To Us Than to Christ | Mark Jones
“The goodness shown to us, God’s people, is a greater goodness to us, than was for a time manifested to Christ himself.”

A Plea For Plumber, Poets, Philosophers and Physicians | Nathan Eshelman
“Let us raise a generation of useful, productive, and creative men and women who have deep roots in biblical and theological knowledge, and let us send them into the world that Christ is redeeming.”

Kindle Books

The Heart of a Leader by Ken Blanchard $1.99. A business book but with many common grace insights for anyone who wants to lead better in their family, work, or church.

The Pastor’s Kid: Finding Your Own Faith and Identity by Barnabas Piper $0.99.

New(ish) Book

Do More Better: A Practical Guide to Productivity by Tim Challies.

You’ve probably all bought it by now. What, you haven’t?

I’ve just bought another couple of copies to work through with my two teenage sons, something I wish someone had done with me at that age.

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9-Year-Old Produces Almost Heavenly Music on the Harp


Holistic Christian Living

This blog promotes holistic Christian living, as the tagline says: Informing Minds, Moving Hearts, Directing Hands. Drawing from God’s truth found both in His Word and His world (read through the lens of His Word), I provide resources that not only help Christians recover from depression, burnout, stress, backsliding, etc., but also help them flourish and thrive in every dimension of life — their bodies, their souls, their minds, their feelings, their churches, their families, their vocations, their relationships, and so on. In the course of my reading over the past week or so, I came across the following helpful articles from various sources, both Christian and non-Christian.

Healthy Bodies

Can Exercise Really Make You Grow New Brain Cells? | Fastcompany

This article summarizes neuroscientist Wendy Suzuki’s research into the connection between exercise and brain cell growth. You can read more in Suzuki’s book, Healthy Brain, Happy Life: A Personal Program to Activate Your Brain and Do Everything Better, which also explains “how to create a practical and sustainable exercise regimen that maximizes one’s brain health and happiness.”

How To Change Your Eating Habits To Have A More Productive 2016 | Fastcompany

How come I’m exercising and eating the right food but still feel exhausted? Brad Davidson, author of The Stark Naked 21-Day Metabolic Reset: Effortless Weight Loss, Rejuvenating Sleep, Limitless Energy, More Mojo, has researched this question and come up with four suggestions:

START YOUR MORNING WITH WARM LEMON WATER
In addition to promoting digestion, lemon water contains phytonutrients, which helps prevent oxidation, protecting the body against disease. You can see an infographic on this here.

FOCUS ON RE-ENERGIZING RATHER THAN RIGOROUS EXERCISE
Reducing the amount of time spent sitting, irrespective of the activity being done, can improve the metabolism and lessen the consequences of obesity.

KEEP YOUR BRAIN WELL-HYDRATED
Pilots who were as little as 1% to 3% dehydrated had a 57% decrease in their flight performance, a 26% drop in their spatial cognition, and had poorer scores when their short-term memory response time was tested.

THE KEY TO A GOOD NIGHT’S SLEEP: WHAT YOU EAT
Consuming complex carbohydrates like rice, sweet potatoes, and quinoa at dinner can help you get a better night’s sleep. “This calms your brain down. It releases serotonin in your brain so you can relax and sleep more easily,” says Davidson.

“Sleep is the fuel to your fire,” says Davidson. “Sleep is the biggest advantage I can give my business people to work well.”

Healthy Minds

Email Breaks at Work Reduce Stress, Improve Productivity | The Atlantic
Researchers found that when employees were allowed to read their email whenever they wanted, they changed screens twice as often had heart rates in a more stressed “high alert” state. On the days they were prohibited to correspond electronically, they experienced more natural, variable heart rates and reported feeling better able to do their jobs and stay focused on their tasks.

The conclusion? Organizations should consider sending out emails in batches to counter the belief that email should be answered as soon as possible and curb employees’ desire to self-interrupt. Or choose to limit yourself to 2-3 time periods a day when you open email.

The book that revolutionized my approach to email a few years ago was Never Check E-Mail In the Morning: And Other Unexpected Strategies for Making Your Work Life Work

Just 6 Seconds of Mindfulness Can Make You More Effective | Harvard Business Review
Ignore the “mindfulness” verbiage, and simply learn the benefit of taking one long deep breath at various strategic points in the day.

Google Vice-President Karen May “developed the ability to mentally recharge by taking one ‘mindful breath’ before walking into every meeting. It takes her roughly six seconds, and in that time she brings her full attention to one breath, resetting her body and mind.

It lowers stress, reduces heart rate and blood pressure, and calms you down. The psychological reason is that when you put your attention intensely on the breath, you are fully in the present for the duration of the breath. To feel regretful, you need to be in the past; to worry, you need to be in the future. Hence, when you are fully in the present, you are temporarily free from regret and worry. That’s like releasing a heavy burden for the duration of one breath, allowing the body and mind a precious opportunity for rest and recovery.

I’ve been doing this for years just before preaching (without knowing the science of it), and I’m not going to let “mindfulness” gurus hijack it and claim it as their own.

Flexible working can make you ill because you stay stressed all the time, say experts | The Guardian
Here’s a warning for those who take work home with them, or for those who do most of their work at home and find it difficult to switch off.

Professor Gail Kinman, a health psychologist at the University of Bedfordshire, said: “If you keep picking at work, worrying about it, your systems never really go down to baseline so you don’t recover properly….it fosters a a “grazing” instinct that keeps dangerous stress hormones at persistently high levels.” It also reduces the effectiveness of our immune system and the quality of our sleep.

How To Completely Change Your Thinking | Grow a Healthy Church
How would you like to fly 72 times in 10 months? Yeh, me neither. But that’s what John Finkelde faced. Here’s how he changed his negativity about that into a much more positive outlook.

What’s on your mind eventually becomes a mindset.

A mindset is a pattern of thinking that’s been developed by habitually thinking the same thoughts. It’s a default mode and it can be negative or positive, destructive or constructive.

Of course the powerful truth is that you can change a mindset.

The best Christian book I’ve found for this kind of mind-set changing is a little known British book, I’m Not Supposed to Feel Like This: A Christian Approach to Coping with Depression and Anxiety

Healthy Emotions

Clemson center Jay Guillermo battles depression but returns to anchor Tigers | ESPN
You don’t often get athletes admitting to depression, especially not College football players. Key takeaway for the depressed: TALK!

The other thing about depression is, it’s never entirely cured. It’s always there, lurking in those dark places that Guillermo hopes to avoid. And the way he has done it is by talking. This doesn’t always come naturally, even if his down-home swagger and impish humor would indicate otherwise. But he understands the path he has walked, and he wants to share his story.

“Depression is a thing you have to talk about, because if you don’t, it will consume you,” he said. “And there are a few guys around here that have dealt with the same thing and have asked me about it, what did I do to change it.”

Three Emotions Pastors Bear Which Are Unknown to Most Congregants | Erik Reed

I have pastored for more than ten years. Many faithful pastors have much longer tenures than me. But in a decade of pastoring I have experienced the gamut of emotions and difficulties. I can speak directly about the things I have faced. I can also speak to things I have witnessed in other dear brothers that I am friends with or have mentored/coached.

The following are three things pastors feel, and regularly work through emotionally, that most—including their congregations—are not aware of. Following these three things, I give an exhortation to my fellow pastors and for congregants.

Healthy Pace

Taking Longer to Reach the Top Has Its Benefits | Harvard Business Review
As Karen Firestone says, “Career coaches don’t make a lot of money from encouraging people to ‘get ahead slowly.’ However, in terms of fulfilling our long-term goals for career success, patience can be an asset.” It’s written mainly to career women, but has obvious application to all. I’ve seen a few young pastors damaged by seeking “advancement” prematurely.

I’ve been running on empty—and what I’m doing to change that | Aaron Armstrong
This and You Can’t Keep Up This Pace by Erik Raymond tell how two different Christian men came to realize that they were running on empty and needed to adjust their pace. They both describe different ways they are trying to slow down and live with more energy and margin in their lives.

Building Margin into Your Schedule | Thinking Out Loud
On the same subject, here’s Paul Wilkinson’s Christmas message using an illustration from the graphic art and design industry: “If you don’t have margin, you bleed.”

If we don’t (literally) take the time to build margin into the busyness of the holiday season, we pay the price for it. If we try to do too much, there’s pain. If we fail to accomplish essentials we should have prioritized, there’s tears.

The gold standard book on this subject is Margin: Restoring Emotional, Physical, Financial, and Time Reserves to Overloaded Lives by Richard Swenson.

Four Reasons Burnout Is More Prevalent in Ministry Leadership | Eric Geiger
See especially #2:

In most roles, overwork feels sinful and neglectful. In ministry, overwork can wrongly feel holy. After all, you are “doing all these things for the Lord and for people.” Some leaders struggle to say no because doing so would feel like denying ministry to people. Leaders can justify all the hours in their minds, the neglect of their own souls, and the neglect of their families. Ministry can attract workaholics and give them a reason to justify their addiction.