Can we have a voluntary moratorium on writing or speaking about homosexuality in Christian circles. It doesn’t have to be forever, but if we could have just a few weeks or even months without it being written about or preached upon, we would all be the better for it.

I think I was 14 or 15 before I heard of homosexuality (it wasn’t exactly a trending topic in Glasgow city schools!). I was maybe late teens before I heard it mentioned, quite obliquely, in a sermon. That kind of ignorance or denial is probably not healthy today. However, I sometimes wish for these days again rather than the other extreme where we cannot get away from it. The media shove it in our faces every day already. Do Christians need to be similarly obsessed?

Of course the subject needs to be addressed from time to time, especially when the militant gay rights movement is such a force in our society. However, it would be so good if we could get through a week now and again without having to soil our minds with it.

A clever devil
The devil is not stupid. He knows that the more people talk about homosexuality, the more it is normalized and becomes just another part of “ordinary” sinful society. The more we talk and write about it, the less shocking and the more “whatever” it becomes.

I imagine most homosexuals are delighted with the way Christians are helping to normalize conversations and discussions about this sin, especially without regard for the ages, innocence, and vulnerability of those who are present. I’ve lost count of the number of times Christian adults have talked about homosexuality in front of my little girls. It makes me so angry, because I want them to hear about healthy and beautiful sexual relations, long before being exposed to the most perverse and twisted – and I want them to hear it from me.

The Apostle Paul said of the unfruitful works of darkness, “For it is shameful even to speak of those things which are done by them in secret” (Eph. 5:12). If that verse doesn’t apply to some extent to this evil, I don’t know what it does cover.

Lost innocence
The devil also knows that by exposing younger and younger children to the vocabulary and idea of homosexuality, that precious innocence is lost and curiosity is dangerously aroused. There are appropriate ages to introduce these things to children, and we should respect parents discretion on this. Can we not find euphemistic ways of talking about some sins, protecting young innocent minds among us, while the rest of us know what’s being talked about?

We’re going to have to fight some fearful battles on this front in the coming years. Homosexuals will not rest with the acceptance of gay marriage. They want to eliminate all criticism and disapproval of their sin, and they will not stop until they are not only tolerated or accepted but approved by all. However, do we really need to constantly fill the blogosphere, Christian magazines, Christian schools, our pulpits, and our family dinner tables with this?

I feel I’ve failed in this area too, and therefore I’ve now resolved to neither talk nor write about this subject more than is absolutely necessary, and always in appropriate forums and ways.

Why don’t you join me?

Christian bloggers, writers, editors, teachers, and preachers, can I appeal to you? Please give us a break from mentioning homosexuality. Even for a month. Give us something positive and wholesome to think about. Give us Jesus.

  • David Murray (Isle of Lewis)

    I agree. It’s got to the stage that when a person is giving an example of a sin during a talk, it seems homosexuality is always one of them. In reality it’s a very uncommon sin and shouldn’t be talked about so much. That verse is very interesting in relation to this too.

  • Anne

    If you had been a fly on our wall last night and heard every word of our conversation, you could not have written a closer account of what we’d been saying….

    I will simply add a hearty AMEN. So let it be.

  • Mike

    Great idea David. I’m in.

  • Scott

    haven’t written or spoken about it myself in some time, but I’m not sure of the issue here. It’s not like Christians are the ones bringing it up. Most of the discussion I hear is related to responses from the world. It’s blasted at us constantly. Students have it shoved down their throats at school, media is all over the issue, I can’t even watch a football game without an ad for some show with a prominent gay character. So asking Christians to ignore the issue seems a bit much. Again, I don’t have regular conversations about the issue, but when it’s thrown at me, I do feel the need to respond in a biblical way.

    • Adam Thompson

      I see it the same way, Scott. Most of the time when I hear Christians bring it up, it’s in response to accusations/demands/questions/activism from the world.

      While I agree that it’s ridiculous how often it’s talked about (considering we’re talking about a tiny percent of the population), I don’t see a solution, when most of the time it’s not Christians who bring the topic or issue up.

  • Clay

    There is a link to your site on and the title of this article grabbed me so I just had to pop over and read it. I have been guilty of being lured into this trap, it just seems so hard with the topic being placed all around, but what you said really resonated with me as true. I heard a long time ago that the way banks train tellers to spot counterfeits is by over exposing them to real money so that when a fake one comes across they can spot it right away, not because they have been studying and dwelling on the false, but because they know the truth so well.

  • David Murray

    Autsin: I’m trying to reduce people’s focus on this sin. Your comment does the opposite.

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  • Peter D.

    The way it is handled is perceived as hateful. By focusing on one thing, we have forgotten about the real mission of the church. Love God First And Best. Love Everyone No Matter What. Preach the Gospel of Jesus Christ. Make Disciples. That is the very clear parameter we are given. When we do these things, the Holy Spirit can work, convict, correct and heal. I grow weary of the subject to the point of saying, “let’s talk about something else”. If they don’t, I leave the room.

  • Dave Gehrls

    Professor Murray, you make several interesting points, then, it appears to me, that you pull Eph 5:12 completely of context.

    11 Have nothing to do with the fruitless deeds of darkness, but rather expose them. 12 For it is shameful even to mention what the disobedient do in secret. 13 But everything exposed by the light becomes visible, 14 for it is light that makes everything visible. This is why it is said:
    “Wake up, O sleeper,
    rise from the dead,
    and Christ will shine on you.”
    15 Be very careful, then, how you live—not as unwise but as wise, 16 making the most of every opportunity, because the days are evil. 17 Therefore do not be foolish, but understand what the Lord’s will is. Eph 5: 11-17 NIV

    My research has shown that the average church has failed to teach, especially the youth, a clear, wisely presented understanding of what the Bible teaches on immorality and especially homosexuality.

    Reading Eph 5 from verse 1 give us the full context of this great call to turn from immorality and become imitators of God.

    God’s love and grace cannot be separated from God’s justice. Jesus began his preaching ministry with “Repent…” -Matt 4:17

    God’s love demands that we call sin…SIN. Only guilty sinners realize their need for God’s mercy. God’s love and grace which sent Jesus to die on the cross only has meaning in the reality of my sin.

    God’s word is light that exposes our sin. “…through the law we become conscious of sin.” Rom 3:20 Until sin becomes sinful we don’t feel the Conviction needed for Repentance and Forgiveness which leads to Saving Faith.

    God’s light of truth which exposes my sin also reveals the cross. When my sin becomes sinful then the Blood becomes the BlOOD, the Cross becomes the CROSS, and in that light I either choose to cling to my sin or repent and kneel at the Cross.

    Is Catholic theologian Ross Douthat accurately nailing us evangelicals as well as Catholics in his book, “Bad Religion – How we became a nation of heretics”?
    “Has the church lost the ability to help people deal with their sin?”

    The deeper agenda in the homosexual controversy is an attack on our 1st Amendment freedoms of religion…they are attacking us…so we cannot help but speak out. Where some have failed and hurt the cause of Christ is in how they speak out. We need speech…full of grace, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how to answer everyone.” Col 4:5

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