Book Recommendations
Christian Living in the Home by Jay E. Adams
Married for God: Making Your Marriage the Best It Can Be by Christopher Ash
Friends and Lovers: Cultivating Companionship and Intimacy in Marriage by Joel Beeke
What Is the Meaning of Sex? by Denny Burk
The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love That Lasts by Gary Chapman
You and Me Forever: Marriage in Light of Eternity by Francis and Lisa Chan
The Mingling of Souls: God’s Design for Love, Marriage, Sex, and Redemption by Matt Chandler
With One Voice: Singleness, Dating & Marriage to the Glory of God by Alex and Marni Chediak
When Sinners Say “I Do” by Dave Harvey
The Meaning of Marriage: Facing the Complexities of Commitment with the Wisdom of God by Tim Keller
Strengthening Your Marriage by Wayne A. Mack
A Christ-Centered Wedding: Rejoicing in the Gospel on Your Big Day by Catherine Parks and Lisa Strode
Happily Ever After: Finding Grace in the Messes of Marriage by Piper, et al.
This Momentary Marriage: A Parable of Permanence by John Piper
The Intimate Marriage: A Practical Guide to Building a Great Marriage by R. C. Sproul
A Biblical Guide to Love, Sex, and Marriage by Derek and Rosemary Thomas
Sacred Marriage: What If God Designed Marriage to Make Us Holy More Than to Make Us Happy? by Gary L. Thomas
Article Links
You will find articles organized under the general outline of Love, Know, Speak, Do (See Paul Tripp’s Instruments in the Redeemer’s Hands). You can find more resources on other subjects here.
LOVE
I Still Believe in Marriage | CBMW | The Council on Biblical Manhood and Womanhood
3 Ways the Gospel Changes Marriage by Erik Raymond | Ligonier Ministries Blog
What’s the point of marriage? Three books and some thoughts | The Briefing
Marriage & My Common Good | Mere Orthodoxy | Christianity, Politics, and Culture
Borrowed Light: Marriage Defined
On the Day I Married Her | Challies Dot Com
A Wife’s Inner Beauty: Convicting and Compelling – The Gospel Coalition Blog
Have we Christians made Marriage too Complicated? – -Kimberley Kay-
Why Marriage Is Better Than Cohabitation
Is God the Center of Your Marriage? | Desiring God
Marriage is Not the Most Sanctifying Agent | Sayable
Marriage in Culture
Why We Stare at Brides | RealClearReligion
The Ideal Modern Marriage | First Thoughts | Blogs | First Things
what is marriage? | Don’t Stop Believing
Save up to marry? Or marry to save up? | Institute of Marriage and Family Canada
Two Is Better Than One—Who Knew? – Albert Mohler.com
The Best Sermon I’ve Ever Heard on Marriage | For His Renown
No one can really redefine marriage | Denny Burk
Why Christians Care About Sex | Andrew Walker | First Things
Michael Jensen asks: Is Chastity Possible?
‘I Miss My Daddy. Divorce Stinks.’ – NYTimes.com
It’s Not Just The Economy Devastating Working-Class Families
If You Care About The Poor, Care About Marriage
The Poverty Problem Is A Marriage Problem
How Marital Infidelity Became America’s Last Sexual Taboo – Hugo Schwyzer – The Atlantic
Two Classes in America, Divided by ‘I Do’ – NYTimes.com
No hooking up, no sex for some coeds – CNN.com
Is Your 50-50 Relationship Ruining Your Marriage?
Out of the Ordinary: What to do and what not to do when your child dates an unbeliever
The Divorce Revolution Has Bred An Army Of Woman Haters
‘Married At First Sight’ Explains Why Americans Can’t Commit
We Should Expect Non-Christians to Share Our Morals | Christianity Today
Ashley Madison and the Death of Monogamy – AlbertMohler.com
What is Marriage to Evangelical Millennials? | Abigail Rine | First Things
Personal Testimonies
The Reluctant Idols: Reflections of a Bride-To-Be | RAANetwork
Today Was Supposed to Be My Wedding Day – The Gospel Coalition Blog
I Would Rather Die | Desiring God
Kay Warren: ‘We Were in Marital Hell’ | CT Women | Christianity Today
3 Reasons I’m Grateful to Have Married Young
After 30 years, it’s good to be married – Chicago Tribune
My Real Life Hosea Story | Christianity Today
Sanctified by marriage and children
One Day He Appeared: My TGC Love Story | TGC | The Gospel Coalition
Statistics and Research
Masters of Love – The Atlantic
The Divorce-Proof Marriage – The Atlantic
Children and Marriage – Kevin DeYoung
Study Finds More Reasons to Get and Stay Married | Denny Burk
Cohabitation and Marriage: A New Study with Revealing Results
Cohabitation’s Transaction Costs | First Things
Fewer men are working, and marriage is dying. | Dal rock
‘Marriage Markets’ Looks at Pressures on Families – NYTimes.com
Is Marriage Good for Your Health? – NYTimes.com
New Research Debunks The ‘Ball And Chain’ Myth – The Aquila Report
Better sex, better health, more money: What men really get out of marriage | Fox News
Pastors’ Joys and Struggles With Family Life
Report: Global Spike In Cohabitation Is Destabilizing Children’s Lives
The Number One Predictor of Divorce and How to Fix It – John Gottman
This might be the key to a happy marriage
KNOW
To Have and to Hold, In Hardship and Unhappiness | Her.meneutics | Christianitytoday.com
12 Frequent Questions About Our International Marriage | TGC
What You Don’t Need to Forgive | Brad Hambrick
Nagging in Marriage Is More Common Than Adultery But Can Also Lead to Divorce – WSJ.com
Were the Puritans Prudes? | Blogging Theologically | Jesus, Books, Culture, & Theology
Martin Luther on Marriage as a School of Character – The Gospel Coalition Blog
A Summary and Questions to Ask on Divorce and Remarriage – Justin Taylor
Marriage and Emotional Intelligence — TIM LANE
Did Old Testament Men Treat Their Wives Like Property? | Stand to Reason
Top 5 Obstacles to Having a Great Christian Marriage – Ron Edmondson
On Headship and Households | MOS – Alliance of Confessing Evangelicals
Me Tarzan, You Jane? : Girls Gone Wise
Godly Manhood – The Gospel Coalition Blog
Pre-Marital Considerations
A Christian Case Against Early Marriage | Her.meneutics | Christianitytoday.com
The Case for Early Marriage | Christianity Today
Marriage Sounds Great—But How On Earth Do I Get There?
Counsel to a Young Church Planter on Marriage – The Gospel Coalition Blog
An Open Letter to My Daughter | The Cripplegate
AlbertMohler.com – Marry Outside the Faith? The Logic of Christian Marriage
7 Issues to Address in Pre-Marital Counseling | Ron Edmondson
Premarital Counseling: Things to Cover | Ron Edmondson
Matrimony No More | Desiring God
Marriage Troubles
John Wesley’s Failed Marriage (Reprise) | the Cripplegate
True Woman | 25 Years of Evangelizing My Husband
Top 10 Fights in Marriage | Girls Gone Wise: Spiritual Smarts for Womanhood, Life & Love
SPEAK
Honeymoon Marriage…Impossible? A guest post by Francie Winslow | The Exchange | A Blog by Ed Stetzer
Marriage Is Death | Biblical Counseling Coalition Blogs
Pain in Christian Marriage | The Christward Collective
What is a helpful practice to grow in gratefulness for your spouse? | Practical Shepherding
The Secret to Having a Marriage that Never Goes Stale | Goins, Writer
10 Personalities that Have No Place in Christian Marriage | TGC
What You Really Need In Marriage
How 20-Something Entitlement Nearly Ruined My Marriage | Storyline Blog
True Woman | Is There Hope for My Marriage?
10 Things I’ve Learned after 26 Years of Marriage | The Exchange | A Blog by Ed Stetzer
Two for Twenty! | East Point Church
The Day After the Hoopla-Housewife Theologian
Why Speaking Well of Your Spouse Is So Important
A Possible Marriage Saver in Nine Steps – Desiring God
Treasure Your Marriage – Tim Challies
Marriage Lessons from the Luthers | CT Women | Christianity Today
Opposites Attract | Desiring God
If He Does Not Love Jesus, He Will Not Love You | Desiring God
The 4 Biggest Mistakes I’ve Made in Marriage | For The Church
The Silent Marriage-Killer | Desiring God
Marital Intimacy Is More Than Sex | Desiring God
The Most Important Ingredient to Improve Your Marriage — TIM LANE
Ten Diagnostic Questions for Your Marriage | TGC
7 Gospel-Centered Principles for Protecting Your Marriage | Biblical Counseling Coalition Blogs
10 Ways that Satan Loves to Watch Marriages Fall Apart | Biblical Counseling Coalition Blogs
Life is Short. Don’t Have an Affair.
15 Wisdom Principles on Deciding When to Stop Having Children | Biblical Counseling Coalition Blogs
8 Lessons from 20 Years of Marriage – The Gospel Coalition
Nine things we’re glad we’ve learned in our marriage (so far)
For Churches and Pastors
Would I Officiate a Wedding for Two Unbelievers? Yes – The Gospel Coalition Blog
Should Ministers Officiate at the Weddings of Unbelievers? No
What Not to Say to Single Women in Your Church – Kevin DeYoung
Love and Repect: Basics for Marriage | Desiring God
Why Sexual Faithfulness Should Matter to the Church – Part 1 | Counseling One Another
Why Sexual Faithfulness Should Matter to the Church – Part 2 | Counseling One Another
Pre-Marital Considerations
I don’t wait anymore. | Grace for the road
When the Wedding Night isn’t Perfect | CBMW | The Council on Biblical Manhood and Womanhood
It Matters Whom You Marry « THE CHRISTIAN PUNDIT
Her.meneutics: Why Jesus Isn’t Your Boyfriend: A Critique of Dating God
Don’t Take It from Me: Reasons You Should Not Marry an Unbeliever – The Gospel Coalition Blog
May I marry for looks? An Open Letter to Single Male Idiots | the Cripplegate
How to Destroy Your Marriage Before It Begins – The Gospel Coalition Blog
Take Your Vitamin Z: Two Posts for Singles That Wish To Be Married
When the Not-Yet Married Meet: Dating to Display Jesus – Desiring God
Dude, Where’s Your Bride? – Kevin DeYoung
Reasons To Get Married In School « THE CHRISTIAN PUNDIT
Why I Don’t Date Men Who Are ‘Willing’ To Save Sex For Marriage
Unequally Yoked | The Cripplegate
Before You Marry, Question Your Relationship
You Are Not Damaged Goods | Desiring God
Single You Will Be the Married You | Desiring God
Six Traits to Look for in a Spouse | Desiring God
When Marriage Is Miles Away: On Long-Distance Dating | Desiring God
Marriage Troubles
Advice For Those Married to a Withholding Spouse – Borrowed Light
How I Predict Divorce Based on the Wedding Cake
Enough is Enough | Gary Thomas
Couples Who Stay Married Think Differently From Those Who Divorce
Hope for a Hopeless Marriage | Prince on Preaching
The secret to staying married | Dalrock
How an Affair Really Begins | Challies Dot Com
A Triage for Marriage Conflicts | ACBC
For Wives
His Heart Trusts in Her by Steven Lawson | Reformed Theology Articles at Ligonier.org
Honoring God in an Unequally Yoked Marriage – The Gospel Coalition Blog
10 Things Your Husband Hates | True Woman
The Absent Minded Husband « THE CHRISTIAN PUNDIT
Practical Theology for Women: The Value of Quiet Husbands
The Self-Righteous Wife – The Gospel Coalition Blog
Let the Wife See She Respects Her Husband – Tim Challies
For Husbands
Husbands, Hold Your Wife’s Hand
Husbands, A Warning Against Bitterness by William Boekestein | Ligonier Ministries Blog
Husbands: A Tip that Could Save Your Marriage | Ordinary Pastor
Husbands: Don’t Treat your Wife Like a Guy | Ordinary Pastor
The Upward Call – The Upward Call – For the guy with the “smokin’ hot wife”
Dear Young, Christian Husband With a Job and Healthy Wife Who Wants a Baby « THE CHRISTIAN PUNDIT
When Your Wife Struggles to Follow You | The Cripplegate
The Upward Call – The Upward Call – What every woman wants men to know …
Masculinity and the Priority of Love – Reformation21 Blog
A Husband’s Manual for Marriage | Desiring God
The World Needs More One-Woman Men | Desiring God
The Curse of a Godly Wife | Challies Dot Com
How to Be a Puritan Husband | Desiring God
DO
7 Commandments of a Great Marriage – Ron Edmondson
So We Can Talk More Good | Gentle Reformation
Six Questions That Will Radically Change Your Marriage | Refine Us
10 Ways to Cultivate Sexual Intimacy in Marriage (Part 1) | RAANetwork (Part 2)
An End-of-Year Marriage Check-Up | TGC
10 Ways to Grow Your Marriage While Having Young Kids
How to Become Your Spouse’s Best Friend
4 Of The Best Pieces of Marital Advice I’ve Ever Heard | The Blazing Center
One Simple Trick to Strengthen Your Marriage – Michael Hyatt
Living Intentionally Together as a Married Couple | TGC
How to Handle Your Spouse’s Sexual Past | Desiring God
Leaving and Cleaving « THE CHRISTIAN PUNDIT
Don’ts
5 Mistakes I Continue To Make in My Marriage. « The Happiness Project
8 Things Healthy Couples Don’t Do | RELEVANT Magazine
Five Wonderful “Won’ts” I Learned From My Parents | The Blazing Center
12 Habits That Lead to Divorce • ChurchLeaders.com
How Husbands Can Get Their Wives to Resent Them | The Cripplegate
Five Ways the Church Can Help Married and Engaged Couples | Ashley McGuire | First Things
Thinking about an Affair? Count the Cost – Michael Hyatt
Pre-Marital Counseling
11 Ways Engaged Couples Should Deal with Finances Now
10 Issues To Work Through Before You Get Married – Tim Challies
Advice for engaged couples | The Cripplegate
Marriage Troubles
10 Step Progression of Restoring Broken Trust | Brad Hambrick
The Journey to Restoring Broken Trust, Part Two | Biblical Counseling Coalition Blogs
How Broken Trust Regrows: 10 Stage Progression – Covenant Eyes
For Wives
30 Pieces of Advice for the New Wife | True Woman Blog | Revive Our Hearts
15 Ways to Please Your Husband | True Woman
4 Ways To Live Out Your Role As Helper
Three Ways to Love Your Imperfect Husband | Desiring God
For Husbands
Ten Years, Ten Lessons – Kevin DeYoung
Husbands, 8 Admonitions to Love Your Wife by William Boekestein | Ligonier Ministries Blog
20 Things a Husband Can Say to Defuse an Argument with His Wife | Counseling One Another
10 Things to Pray for Your Wife – Desiring God
20 Ideas for Dating Your Wife | Justin Buzzard
Feeding on Christ 7 Ways to Care for Your Wife – Feeding on Christ
How to Make Headship Decisions: A Tutorial for Husbands & Leaders | Brad Hambrick
10 Ways to Exercise Christlike Headship | CBMW | The Council on Biblical Manhood and Womanhood
RESOURCES
Websites
Sexual Integrity Resources for Teens | Redeemed Reader
Church/Counseling Resources and Study Guides
Free Comprehensive Gospel-Centered Pre-Marital Mentoring Program | Brad Hambrick
VLOG – Why Mentoring for Pre-Marital Counseling? | Brad Hambrick
Marriage Evaluation: Knowing Each Other & Healthy Expectations | Brad Hambrick
Index: 15 Gospel-Centered Marriage Evaluation Tools | Brad Hambrick
“The Meaning of Marriage” Study Guide | Do Not Disturb
Marriage & Motherhood: Meaning of Marriage (Keller) Discussion Guide
Follow Up Resources for a Sermon on Headship and Submission | Brad Hambrick
240 Marriage Communication Topics | Brad Hambrick
‘Meaning of Marriage’ Group Study from Tim and Kathy Keller
Book Reviews
You and Me Forever
eJournal : 9Marks Marriage Book Comparison Chart | 9Marks
Ancient Wisdom for a Sexualized World | TGC | The Gospel Coalition
A Christ-Centered Wedding – What’s Best Next
5 Resources for Cultivating a Beautiful Culture of Marriage and Sexuality
Podcasts
How Can My Difficult Marriage Glorify Christ? | Desiring God
Are Men Superior to Women? | Desiring God
Should I Finish School Before I Marry? Six Options to Consider | Desiring God
Here are four things most wives want from their husbands – Urban Faith
Season 5, Episode 12: 4 Easy Steps to Affair-Proof Your Marriage [Podcast] – Michael Hyatt
Sermons
Marriage – Tim Keller Series
Preaching On The Family « unashamed
The Rykens on Men, Women, and Marriage – Justin Taylor
Videos
N. T. Wright On Marriage as a Signpost | TGC
Piper, Carson, and Keller on Sustaining the Covenant of Marital Love – The Gospel Coalition Blog
Men and Women : Who are We? (Part 1) – Ryan Fullerton – YouTube
Sex Before Marriage: How Far Is Too Far? | CCEF
After 12 months, Leo and Cynthia Divorced | Denny Burk
Millennials and Marriage: Evaluating The Younger Generation’s Views on Sexuality and Marriage | TGC