Book Recommendations

Christian Living in the Home by Jay E. Adams

Married for God: Making Your Marriage the Best It Can Be by Christopher Ash

Friends and Lovers: Cultivating Companionship and Intimacy in Marriage by Joel Beeke

What Is the Meaning of Sex? by Denny Burk

The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love That Lasts by Gary Chapman

You and Me Forever: Marriage in Light of Eternity by Francis and Lisa Chan

The Mingling of Souls: God’s Design for Love, Marriage, Sex, and Redemption by Matt Chandler

With One Voice: Singleness, Dating & Marriage to the Glory of God by Alex and Marni Chediak

When Sinners Say “I Do” by Dave Harvey

The Meaning of Marriage: Facing the Complexities of Commitment with the Wisdom of God by Tim Keller

Strengthening Your Marriage by Wayne A. Mack

A Christ-Centered Wedding: Rejoicing in the Gospel on Your Big Day by Catherine Parks and Lisa Strode

Happily Ever After: Finding Grace in the Messes of Marriage by Piper, et al.

This Momentary Marriage: A Parable of Permanence by John Piper

The Intimate Marriage: A Practical Guide to Building a Great Marriage by R. C. Sproul

A Biblical Guide to Love, Sex, and Marriage by Derek and Rosemary Thomas

Sacred Marriage: What If God Designed Marriage to Make Us Holy More Than to Make Us Happy? by Gary L. Thomas

Article Links

You will find articles organized under the general outline of Love, Know, Speak, Do (See Paul Tripp’s Instruments in the Redeemer’s Hands). You can find more resources on other subjects here.


Man, Woman, and the Mystery of Christ: An Evangelical Protestant Perspective | TGC | The Gospel Coalition

I Still Believe in Marriage | CBMW | The Council on Biblical Manhood and Womanhood

3 Ways the Gospel Changes Marriage by Erik Raymond | Ligonier Ministries Blog

What’s the point of marriage? Three books and some thoughts | The Briefing

Marriage & My Common Good | Mere Orthodoxy | Christianity, Politics, and Culture

Borrowed Light: Marriage Defined

On the Day I Married Her | Challies Dot Com

A Wife’s Inner Beauty: Convicting and Compelling – The Gospel Coalition Blog

Have we Christians made Marriage too Complicated? – -Kimberley Kay-

Why Marriage Is Better Than Cohabitation

Is God the Center of Your Marriage? | Desiring God

Marriage is Not the Most Sanctifying Agent | Sayable


Marriage in Culture

Why We Stare at Brides | RealClearReligion

The Ideal Modern Marriage | First Thoughts | Blogs | First Things

what is marriage? | Don’t Stop Believing

Save up to marry? Or marry to save up? | Institute of Marriage and Family Canada

Two Is Better Than One—Who Knew? – Albert

Unequal, Unfair, and Unhappy: The 3 Biggest Myths About Marriage Today – W. Bradford Wilcox – The Atlantic

The Best Sermon I’ve Ever Heard on Marriage | For His Renown

No one can really redefine marriage | Denny Burk

Why Christians Care About Sex | Andrew Walker | First Things

The pressure of proposing

Michael Jensen asks: Is Chastity Possible?

‘I Miss My Daddy. Divorce Stinks.’ –

It’s Not Just The Economy Devastating Working-Class Families

If You Care About The Poor, Care About Marriage

The Poverty Problem Is A Marriage Problem

An 81-year marriage is impressive, but it shouldn’t be fetishised | Catherine Deveny |

How Marital Infidelity Became America’s Last Sexual Taboo – Hugo Schwyzer – The Atlantic

Two Classes in America, Divided by ‘I Do’ –

No hooking up, no sex for some coeds –

Replacing marriage

Is Your 50-50 Relationship Ruining Your Marriage?

Out of the Ordinary: What to do and what not to do when your child dates an unbeliever

The Divorce Revolution Has Bred An Army Of Woman Haters

‘Married At First Sight’ Explains Why Americans Can’t Commit

We Should Expect Non-Christians to Share Our Morals | Christianity Today

Ashley Madison and the Death of Monogamy –

What is Marriage to Evangelical Millennials? | Abigail Rine | First Things

Personal Testimonies

Worth Fighting For | En Route

The Reluctant Idols: Reflections of a Bride-To-Be | RAANetwork

Today Was Supposed to Be My Wedding Day – The Gospel Coalition Blog

I Would Rather Die | Desiring God

Kay Warren: ‘We Were in Marital Hell’ | CT Women | Christianity Today

3 Reasons I’m Grateful to Have Married Young

After 30 years, it’s good to be married – Chicago Tribune

My Real Life Hosea Story | Christianity Today

Sanctified by marriage and children

One Day He Appeared: My TGC Love Story | TGC | The Gospel Coalition

Statistics and Research

Masters of Love – The Atlantic

The Divorce-Proof Marriage – The Atlantic

Marriage – a miracle cure

Children and Marriage – Kevin DeYoung

Study Finds More Reasons to Get and Stay Married | Denny Burk

When the Wife is Happy

Cohabitation and Marriage: A New Study with Revealing Results

Cohabitation’s Transaction Costs | First Things

Fewer men are working, and marriage is dying. | Dal rock

‘Marriage Markets’ Looks at Pressures on Families –

Is Marriage Good for Your Health? –

New Research Debunks The ‘Ball And Chain’ Myth – The Aquila Report

Better sex, better health, more money: What men really get out of marriage | Fox News

Pastors’ Joys and Struggles With Family Life

Report: Global Spike In Cohabitation Is Destabilizing Children’s Lives

The Number One Predictor of Divorce and How to Fix It – John Gottman

This might be the key to a happy marriage

The Right Time To Marry Is…


To Have and to Hold, In Hardship and Unhappiness | Her.meneutics |

12 Frequent Questions About Our International Marriage | TGC

Ten Simple (But Critical) Questions to Consider in Marriage Counseling | Biblical Counseling Coalition Blogs

What You Don’t Need to Forgive | Brad Hambrick

Nagging in Marriage Is More Common Than Adultery But Can Also Lead to Divorce –

Were the Puritans Prudes? | Blogging Theologically | Jesus, Books, Culture, & Theology

Martin Luther on Marriage as a School of Character – The Gospel Coalition Blog

A Summary and Questions to Ask on Divorce and Remarriage – Justin Taylor

Marriage and Emotional Intelligence — TIM LANE

Did Old Testament Men Treat Their Wives Like Property? | Stand to Reason

Top 5 Obstacles to Having a Great Christian Marriage – Ron Edmondson

On Headship and Households | MOS – Alliance of Confessing Evangelicals

3 Reasons Those Who Are Unbiblically Remarried After a Divorce Should Not Leave Their New Spouse | TGC

Me Tarzan, You Jane? : Girls Gone Wise

Godly Manhood – The Gospel Coalition Blog

Pre-Marital Considerations

A Christian Case Against Early Marriage | Her.meneutics |

The Case for Early Marriage | Christianity Today

Marriage Sounds Great—But How On Earth Do I Get There?

Counsel to a Young Church Planter on Marriage – The Gospel Coalition Blog

An Open Letter to My Daughter | The Cripplegate – Marry Outside the Faith? The Logic of Christian Marriage

7 Issues to Address in Pre-Marital Counseling | Ron Edmondson

Premarital Counseling: Things to Cover | Ron Edmondson

Matrimony No More | Desiring God

Marriage Troubles

John Wesley’s Failed Marriage (Reprise) | the Cripplegate

True Woman | 25 Years of Evangelizing My Husband

Top 10 Fights in Marriage | Girls Gone Wise: Spiritual Smarts for Womanhood, Life & Love

What Principles Guide My First Meeting with a Couple in Marital Crisis? | Biblical Counseling Coalition Blogs


Honeymoon Marriage…Impossible? A guest post by Francie Winslow | The Exchange | A Blog by Ed Stetzer

Marriage Is Death | Biblical Counseling Coalition Blogs

Pain in Christian Marriage | The Christward Collective

What is a helpful practice to grow in gratefulness for your spouse? | Practical Shepherding

The Secret to Having a Marriage that Never Goes Stale | Goins, Writer

10 Personalities that Have No Place in Christian Marriage | TGC

What You Really Need In Marriage

How 20-Something Entitlement Nearly Ruined My Marriage | Storyline Blog

True Woman | Is There Hope for My Marriage?

10 Things I’ve Learned after 26 Years of Marriage | The Exchange | A Blog by Ed Stetzer

Two for Twenty! | East Point Church

The Day After the Hoopla-Housewife Theologian

Why Speaking Well of Your Spouse Is So Important

A Possible Marriage Saver in Nine Steps – Desiring God

Treasure Your Marriage – Tim Challies

Marriage Lessons from the Luthers | CT Women | Christianity Today

Opposites Attract | Desiring God

What are 10 things that might help a pastor and his wife stay married and in ministry? | Practical Shepherding

If He Does Not Love Jesus, He Will Not Love You | Desiring God

The 4 Biggest Mistakes I’ve Made in Marriage | For The Church

The Silent Marriage-Killer | Desiring God

Beware of Quicksand: How One Stranger’s Comment Changed My Marriage Forever | Becky ThompsonBecky Thompson

Marital Intimacy Is More Than Sex | Desiring God

The Most Important Ingredient to Improve Your Marriage — TIM LANE

Ten Diagnostic Questions for Your Marriage | TGC

7 Gospel-Centered Principles for Protecting Your Marriage | Biblical Counseling Coalition Blogs

10 Ways that Satan Loves to Watch Marriages Fall Apart | Biblical Counseling Coalition Blogs

Advice to Young Marrieds? Why Michelle Duggar’s Newlywed Sex Advice Hurts Women AND Men | Musings of a Christian Psychologist

Life is Short. Don’t Have an Affair.

15 Wisdom Principles on Deciding When to Stop Having Children | Biblical Counseling Coalition Blogs

8 Lessons from 20 Years of Marriage – The Gospel Coalition

Nine things we’re glad we’ve learned in our marriage (so far)

For Churches and Pastors

Would I Officiate a Wedding for Two Unbelievers? Yes – The Gospel Coalition Blog

Should Ministers Officiate at the Weddings of Unbelievers? No

What Not to Say to Single Women in Your Church – Kevin DeYoung

Love and Repect: Basics for Marriage | Desiring God

Why Sexual Faithfulness Should Matter to the Church – Part 1 | Counseling One Another

Why Sexual Faithfulness Should Matter to the Church – Part 2 | Counseling One Another

Pre-Marital Considerations

I don’t wait anymore. | Grace for the road

When the Wedding Night isn’t Perfect | CBMW | The Council on Biblical Manhood and Womanhood

It Matters Whom You Marry « THE CHRISTIAN PUNDIT

Her.meneutics: Why Jesus Isn’t Your Boyfriend: A Critique of Dating God

Don’t Take It from Me: Reasons You Should Not Marry an Unbeliever – The Gospel Coalition Blog

May I marry for looks? An Open Letter to Single Male Idiots | the Cripplegate

How to Destroy Your Marriage Before It Begins – The Gospel Coalition Blog

Take Your Vitamin Z: Two Posts for Singles That Wish To Be Married

When the Not-Yet Married Meet: Dating to Display Jesus – Desiring God

Dude, Where’s Your Bride? – Kevin DeYoung

Reasons To Get Married In School « THE CHRISTIAN PUNDIT

Why I Don’t Date Men Who Are ‘Willing’ To Save Sex For Marriage

Unequally Yoked | The Cripplegate

Before You Marry, Question Your Relationship

You Are Not Damaged Goods | Desiring God

I Messed Up: Confessing Sin to Your Boyfriend or Girlfriend Before You Get Engaged | Biblical Counseling Coalition Blogs

Single You Will Be the Married You | Desiring God

Six Traits to Look for in a Spouse | Desiring God

When Marriage Is Miles Away: On Long-Distance Dating | Desiring God

Marriage Troubles

Advice For Those Married to a Withholding Spouse – Borrowed Light

How I Predict Divorce Based on the Wedding Cake

Enough is Enough | Gary Thomas

Couples Who Stay Married Think Differently From Those Who Divorce

Does Grace and Forgiveness Erase Negative Consequences or Amends Making after Serious Sin? – Leslie Vernick- Christ-Centered Counseling

Hope for a Hopeless Marriage | Prince on Preaching

The secret to staying married | Dalrock

How an Affair Really Begins | Challies Dot Com

A Triage for Marriage Conflicts | ACBC


For Wives

His Heart Trusts in Her by Steven Lawson | Reformed Theology Articles at

Honoring God in an Unequally Yoked Marriage – The Gospel Coalition Blog

10 Things Your Husband Hates | True Woman

The Absent Minded Husband « THE CHRISTIAN PUNDIT

Practical Theology for Women: The Value of Quiet Husbands

The Self-Righteous Wife – The Gospel Coalition Blog

Let the Wife See She Respects Her Husband – Tim Challies


For Husbands

Letters of Note: Love, Dad

Husbands, Hold Your Wife’s Hand

Husbands, A Warning Against Bitterness by William Boekestein | Ligonier Ministries Blog

Husbands: A Tip that Could Save Your Marriage | Ordinary Pastor

Husbands: Don’t Treat your Wife Like a Guy | Ordinary Pastor

The Upward Call – The Upward Call – For the guy with the “smokin’ hot wife”

Dear Young, Christian Husband With a Job and Healthy Wife Who Wants a Baby « THE CHRISTIAN PUNDIT

When Your Wife Struggles to Follow You | The Cripplegate

The Upward Call – The Upward Call – What every woman wants men to know …

Masculinity and the Priority of Love – Reformation21 Blog

A Husband’s Manual for Marriage | Desiring God

The World Needs More One-Woman Men | Desiring God

The Curse of a Godly Wife | Challies Dot Com

How to Be a Puritan Husband | Desiring God


7 Commandments of a Great Marriage – Ron Edmondson

So We Can Talk More Good | Gentle Reformation

Six Questions That Will Radically Change Your Marriage | Refine Us

10 Ways to Cultivate Sexual Intimacy in Marriage (Part 1) | RAANetwork (Part 2)

An End-of-Year Marriage Check-Up | TGC

10 Ways to Grow Your Marriage While Having Young Kids

How to Become Your Spouse’s Best Friend

4 Of The Best Pieces of Marital Advice I’ve Ever Heard | The Blazing Center

One Simple Trick to Strengthen Your Marriage – Michael Hyatt

Living Intentionally Together as a Married Couple | TGC

How to Handle Your Spouse’s Sexual Past | Desiring God

Leaving and Cleaving « THE CHRISTIAN PUNDIT



5 Mistakes I Continue To Make in My Marriage. « The Happiness Project

8 Things Healthy Couples Don’t Do | RELEVANT Magazine

16 Ways I Blew My Marriage

Five Wonderful “Won’ts” I Learned From My Parents | The Blazing Center

12 Habits That Lead to Divorce •

How Husbands Can Get Their Wives to Resent Them | The Cripplegate

Five Ways the Church Can Help Married and Engaged Couples | Ashley McGuire | First Things

Thinking about an Affair? Count the Cost – Michael Hyatt

Pre-Marital Counseling

11 Ways Engaged Couples Should Deal with Finances Now

10 Issues To Work Through Before You Get Married – Tim Challies

Advice for engaged couples | The Cripplegate


Marriage Troubles

10 Step Progression of Restoring Broken Trust | Brad Hambrick

The Journey to Restoring Broken Trust, Part Two | Biblical Counseling Coalition Blogs

How Broken Trust Regrows: 10 Stage Progression – Covenant Eyes


For Wives

30 Pieces of Advice for the New Wife | True Woman Blog | Revive Our Hearts

15 Ways to Please Your Husband | True Woman

4 Ways To Live Out Your Role As Helper

Three Ways to Love Your Imperfect Husband | Desiring God

For Husbands

Ten Years, Ten Lessons – Kevin DeYoung

Husbands, 8 Admonitions to Love Your Wife by William Boekestein | Ligonier Ministries Blog

20 Things a Husband Can Say to Defuse an Argument with His Wife | Counseling One Another

10 Things to Pray for Your Wife – Desiring God

20 Ideas for Dating Your Wife | Justin Buzzard

Feeding on Christ 7 Ways to Care for Your Wife – Feeding on Christ

How to Make Headship Decisions: A Tutorial for Husbands & Leaders | Brad Hambrick

10 Ways to Exercise Christlike Headship | CBMW | The Council on Biblical Manhood and Womanhood



How We Love

Sexual Integrity Resources for Teens | Redeemed Reader

Church/Counseling Resources and Study Guides

Free Comprehensive Gospel-Centered Pre-Marital Mentoring Program | Brad Hambrick

VLOG – Why Mentoring for Pre-Marital Counseling? | Brad Hambrick

Marriage Evaluation: Knowing Each Other & Healthy Expectations | Brad Hambrick

Index: 15 Gospel-Centered Marriage Evaluation Tools | Brad Hambrick

“The Meaning of Marriage” Study Guide | Do Not Disturb

Marriage & Motherhood: Meaning of Marriage (Keller) Discussion Guide

Follow Up Resources for a Sermon on Headship and Submission | Brad Hambrick

240 Marriage Communication Topics | Brad Hambrick

Gary Thomas | Sacred Marriage

‘Meaning of Marriage’ Group Study from Tim and Kathy Keller

Book Reviews
You and Me Forever

The Mingling of Souls

And Yet Another Marriage Book

eJournal : 9Marks Marriage Book Comparison Chart | 9Marks

Ancient Wisdom for a Sexualized World | TGC | The Gospel Coalition

A Christ-Centered Wedding – What’s Best Next

5 Resources for Cultivating a Beautiful Culture of Marriage and Sexuality



How Can My Difficult Marriage Glorify Christ? | Desiring God

Are Men Superior to Women? | Desiring God

Should I Finish School Before I Marry? Six Options to Consider | Desiring God

Here are four things most wives want from their husbands – Urban Faith

Season 5, Episode 12: 4 Easy Steps to Affair-Proof Your Marriage [Podcast] – Michael Hyatt



Marriage – Tim Keller Series

Preaching On The Family « unashamed

The Rykens on Men, Women, and Marriage – Justin Taylor


N. T. Wright On Marriage as a Signpost | TGC

Piper, Carson, and Keller on Sustaining the Covenant of Marital Love – The Gospel Coalition Blog

Men and Women : Who are We? (Part 1) – Ryan Fullerton – YouTube

Sex Before Marriage: How Far Is Too Far? | CCEF

After 12 months, Leo and Cynthia Divorced | Denny Burk

Millennials and Marriage: Evaluating The Younger Generation’s Views on Sexuality and Marriage | TGC