High-octane women

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Ever heard of “high-octane women”? No, neither had I until I read this article on female burnout on the Psychology Today website. There Dr Sherrie Bourg Carter, author of High Octane Women gives some warning signs; signs that also apply to high-octane men.

  • Physical signs: chest pain, stomach pain, sleep problems, frequent headaches, chronic fatigue.
  • Psychological signs: activities you once enjoyed aren’t enjoyable anymore, excessive anxiety, inability to concentrate, pessimism, hopelessness, frustration, anger.
  • Behavioral signs: skipping meals, drop in productivity, long work hours yet several incomplete projects, eating alone, being a poor team player.

She also wrote a helpful follow-up on re-fueling and basic ongoing maintenance. You can skip the yoga!

These articles help answer the “what” and the “when” questions: what to do and when to do it. They help high-octane types re-arrange and re-schedule their lives in a wiser way. But for deeper change we have to go further and ask both high-octane men and women the “who“, “why,” and “how” questions

1. Who?
Who are you doing all this work for? Is it to please your husband or wife? Is it to impress your boss? Is it to keep up with your colleagues? Is it to prove your manhood to businessmen in your congregation? Who is the first person you think of when you think of your home-making? When was the last time you thought of the Lord at the beginning and end of your work? And what view of the Lord do you have? Do you think of Him as a hard-hearted and ruthless tycoon, or as a loving heavenly Father who wants to encourage and comfort His tired children? Who is the Lord to you?

2. Why? 
Why are you doing this? What motivates you to live like this? What drives you into such a run-down state?

“Well, it’s my calling? It’s my ministry. I’m serving the Lord in my home/work/congregation.”

If so, good and well. But remember, it’s possible to sin by doing too much good! Yes, we can sin by doing too little good. But we can also sin in doing good; by living beyond our God-given limitations for too long a period of time. The Shorter Catechism reminds us that the sixth commandment “requires all lawful endeavors to preserve our own life” (Q.68).

3. How?
How do you serve God in your work and calling? Do you do it in your own strength? Are you living off your own fuel, energy, drive, and determination? Are you high-octane or Holy Spirit-empowered? Do you depend on your little fuel tank, or on the unlimited resources of God’s Spirit?

Usually, if we answer the “who,” “why,” and “how” questions, it becomes much easier to answer the “what,” and “when” questions.

The Pleasure of Resting in God

1INTRODUCTION

Children, have you ever decided you didn’t like a food before you tried it? Then, when you actually tasted it, you said, “Wow, that’s actually really nice.” The fourth commandment is a bit like that. Most Christians haven’t really tried it, but they’ve decided they don’t like it. But when they eventually do try it, they’re surprised at how much they enjoy it. I’m asking you to give this commandment a chance.

Or maybe, you had food poisoning after eating something and it put you off eating that food ever again. Some Christians have been put off the fourth commandment because they were poisoned by their family’s or church’s legalistic approach that focused on all the things you couldn’t do. Again, I’m asking you to give this commandment a chance, because it can be a great pleasure when purified of legalism.

We’ve called this series the ten pleasures (not nine pleasures and one misery). If you want to have maximum pleasure in life, give God’s Word a hearing and give God’s Word a go as we answer this question: How does Sunday help us enjoy resting in God?

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BACKGROUND

The first passage we’re going to look at is Exodus 20:8-11. The immediate background to this is of course God’s deliverance of Israel from Egypt (Exodus 19:3-6; 20:1-2): Redemption > Relationship > Rules > Reward. The fourth commandment is one of God’s ten rules for helping Israel keep their redemptive relationship with him healthy and happy, obedience to which will be generously and graciously rewarded. The first four guide our relationship with God: We worship (1) the right God; (2) in the right way; (3) in the right direction; (4) at the right time.

The second passage we’re going to look at is Isaiah 58:13-14. The background to this is Isaiah’s prophesy that after exile for their sins in Babylon, Israel will turn from their sins to God and correct the sins that brought them under God’s judgment. One of those reformations would be a new positive and pleasure-filled view of the Sabbath Day.

I’m not going to spend time in this sermon justifying the change from the Sabbath on the seventh day of the week to the Lord’s Day on first day of the week. The principle of one day in seven remains constant. The day and name was changed because in addition to the seventh day creation rest, God’s people now had the extra motivation of the first day salvation rest when Christ resurrected.

How does Sunday increase my pleasure?

1. THE LORD’S DAY IS FOR HOLY REST (EXODUS 20:8-11)

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The key word in the commandment is ‘holy.’ The essential meaning of ‘holy’ is ‘separate’ or ‘cut off.’ It calls for difference and distinction. Whatever else, Sunday is to be different. But what kind of different? The first difference is that in contrast to the other six days of the week, Sunday is to be a rest day. Here’s the summary of what our Reformed Catechisms teach us (Shorter 58-63, Larger 116-121, Heidelberg 103).

HE LORD’S DAY IS TO BE SANCTIFIED (SEPARATED) BY:

Salvation rest:

  • All the days of my life I cease from my evil works,
  • and yield myself to the Lord,
  • to work by His Holy Spirit in me;
  • and thus begin in this life the eternal sabbath

Physical rest:

  • holy resting all that day,
  • even from such worldly employments
  • and recreations
  • as are lawful on other days

Sacred rest

  • and making it our delight to spend the whole time
  • in the public and private exercises of God’s worship,
  • except so much as is to be taken up in the works of necessity and mercy

THE LORD’S DAY IS TO BE SANCTIFIED BECAUSE:

  • God’s given us his own example (Gen. 2:2)
  • God’s specially blessed the Sabbath Day (Gen. 2:3)
  • God’s allowed us six days of the week for our own work and recreation
  • God’s claimed special ownership of it
  • God’s got our good and the world’s good at heart
  • God’s Son maintained it (Matt. 5:17-18), stripping off human laws, reformed it for good uses.

CHANGING OUR STORIES WITH GOD’S STORY

Rest in the Savior first. There’s no point in trying to rest on Sunday if you haven’t rested in the Savior. Rest from evil works and good works. That’s the most important rest of all.

Rest by worshipping: We rest our bodies by exercising our souls in public and private. God has designed worship to renew and refresh our bodies, minds, souls, relationships, perspective.

HOLY REST IS
HOLISTIC REST

That sounds pretty miserable to me. How is this a pleasure?

2. THE LORD’S DAY IS FOR HOLY PLEASURE (ISAIAH 58:13-14)

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The second way the Lord’s Day is to be different is in the nature of the pleasure we seek and enjoy.

Enjoy Monday-Saturday Pleasure

“If you turn back your foot from the Sabbath, from doing your pleasure on my holy day…not seeking your own pleasure… (13, 14).

The Lord wants us to find pleasure in our work/study/play six days a week. All our time is God’s time, but he gives us six whole days for finding pleasure in our work/study/play. Then he simply asks us one day for pleasure in himself.

Enjoy Sunday Pleasure

 …and call the Sabbath a delight and the holy day of the Lord honorable; if you honor it, not going your own ways, or seeking your own pleasure, or talking idly; then then you shall take delight in the Lord (13-14).

This is the positive side of the commandment. God wants us to have pleasure and delight on the Lord’s Day too, but it’s a different kind of pleasure and delight compared to the other six days.

Enjoy Sunday Blessings

…and I will make you ride on the heights of the earth; I will feed you with the heritage of Jacob your father, for the mouth of the Lord has spoken (14).

As we’ve already seen, the Lord promises rewards if we keep his rules within a redemptive relationship. But there’s a special reward connected with obedience to this command: high flying and deep nourishment.

CHANGING OUR STORIES WITH GOD’S STORY

The weekly rest day is to be the happiest day. Call it a delight then make it a delight. God’s not deceiving us here. It’s not bait and switch tactics. He really wants us to pursue pleasure on Sunday: the pleasures of worshipping, learning, praying, fellowshipping, eating/drinking, serving, helping, receiving, loving, reading, listening, teaching, sharing, giving, and so on.

The weekly rest day was made for humanity (Mark. 2:27-28). If you want to improve your physical, emotional, mental, relational, and social health, here is free healthcare. It’s a day for refreshing, re-orienting, re-centering. Evening worship is the biggest help towards maximizing pleasure.

MORE SUNDAY PLEASURE
MORE WEEKDAY PLEASURE

SUMMARY

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A NEW CHAPTER

  • Gospel: Jesus promises rest in the Gospel (Matt. 11:28) and gives us an opportunity to experience that more clearly and exhibit that more physically on the Lord’s Day.
  • Jesus: Jesus’ rest gives us a greater reason to rest and a deeper kind of rest. He (not sport) is the Lord of the Sabbath (Matt. 12:8). As Kevin DeYoung said, “Rest, Rejoice, Repeat.” Or as B B Warfield put it: “Christ took the Sabbath into the grave with him and brought the Lord’s Day out of the grave with him.”
  • Worship: Jesus has freed us from all unnecessary work/study/play one day a week, so we can enjoy higher, deeper, wider, better pleasure. It’s like getting a snow day every week (Mark 2:27). We worship by resting and rest by worshipping. It’s a ‘no-ought’ day. It’s freedom day not restriction day. We are to exhibit our status as image-bearers and freed slaves.
  • Monday: Resting on Sunday will transform Monday-Saturday. Just try it. Organize your week to make Sunday rest possible. You’ll be surprised how efficient and productive you can be
  • Practical: Alistair Begg wants us to ask: “Does this activity promote rest and worship?” If you have children, you need to prepare resources and activities and adopt a positive attitude.
  • Love: Help others to keep the day separate by not making them work if they don’t have to.
  • Prayer: Give me deeper rest in Jesus through deeper rest on his day.
  • Heaven: Hell’s a place of forever restlessness, but heaven’s a place of forever rest and pleasure.

DISCUSSION QUESTIONS

  • Why is the fourth commandment such a sticking point for Christians? For you?
  • How has this sermon changed your view of and practice on the Lord’s Day?
  • Look up ‘The Sabbath Manifesto.’ What are secular people saying about a weekly rest day?
  • How can you stop legalism from adding human rules to God’s rule?
  • What do you find delightful about the Sabbath? What makes it a pleasure?
  • How can you help children view the Lord’s Day as the best day of the week?

PDF OF SERMON NOTES

The Pleasure Of Lifting God Up

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INTRODUCTION

A few years ago, I started going to the gym after many years of relying on just general fitness. Being a man, I didn’t need a trainer, of course. Just watched a few YouTube videos and was confident I’d soon look like Mark Walburg. Unfortunately that’s not quite what happened. Over the first couple of months, I got injury after injury. I’d exercise for a couple of days, then I was out for a couple of weeks. And so it went on.

I was about to give up when one of my students, a trainer at the Y, asked why I always looked like I was in agony. I explained what was happening and he offered to come to the gym the next day to see if he could help me.

I went to do my first exercise, when he said, “Stop! Are you not going to warm up first?” I said I didn’t usually have enough time to do that and wanted to just get into the body-building. He insisted I do 8-10 mins on an exercise bike. After finally getting to the barbell, I started lifting but only got about halfway, when he put his hands under the bar and said, “Let’s just put this gently down on the floor again. Your form is terrible.” “What’s form?” I asked. He then spent about five minutes teaching me how to lift in the correct way.

We went through this humbling process with every exercise. He was not so interested in what I was lifting but in how I was lifting. After many weeks of learning the right forms for each exercise, I was lifting less than before, but I wasn’t injuring myself any longer and I actually was beginning to enjoy it more and more.

Today we are going to learn how to lift God’s name up in a way that does us more good than harm. How do we lift God up safely, profitably, and enjoyably?

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BACKGROUND

We can sum up the first four commandments as: We worship (1) the right God; (2) in the right way; (3) in the right direction; (4) at the right time.

1. BAD LIFTING HARMS US

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You shall not take the name of the Lord your God in vain, for the Lord will not hold him guiltless who takes his name in vain (7).

The Hebrew of the verb behind ‘take’ means ‘to lift, carry, or bear.’ In Hebrew culture, ‘Name’ means ‘character.’ ‘Vain’ means ‘empty, worthless, nothing, unreal.’ The commandment is forbidding lifting up or carrying God’s character in a way that empties it of weight so as to become worthless. Here’s a collated summary of the Shorter (55), Larger (113), and Heidelberg Catechisms’ (99) teaching about what the Third Commandment forbids:

THE THIRD COMMANDMENT FORBIDS

  • all profaning (removing from holy use to common use)
  • or abusing of (trampling underfoot or using too much)

OF

  • anything by which God makes himself known: (names, titles, attributes, ordinances, Word, and works)

BY

  • Desecrating God’s name: blasphemy, cursing
  • Vandalizing God’s name: perjury, violation of oaths and vows (Matt. 5:33-37)
  • Wanting more than God’s name: murmuring at or curious prying into God’s decrees and providences
  • Teaching wrongly in God’s name: misinterpreting, misapplying, or any way perverting the Word
  • Joking about God’s name: profane jests
  • Sidelining God’s name: curious or unprofitable questions
  • Shrinking God’s name: maligning, scorning, reviling, or opposing of God’s truth, grace, and ways
  • Pretending with God’s name: professing of religion in hypocrisy, or for sinister selfish ends (hollow)
  • Hiding God’s name: being ashamed of religion
  • Misrepresenting God’s name: or a shame to it
  • Ignoring abuse of God’s name: to share in such horrible sins by being silent bystanders
  • Repeating God’s name using God’s name as a comma in prayer

CHANGING OUR STORIES WITH GOD’S STORY

Take God’s name seriously: God does (Lev. 24:16). Jen Wilkins explains how in the Gospels and most of Acts, ‘Jesus’ is used to identify the historical person as they tell the story of the incarnation. “But those who interact with him in the Gospel narratives always refer to him as ‘teacher’ or ‘Lord.’ But, in all twenty-one of the Epistles, he is referred to only twenty-eight times simply as ‘Jesus,’ and 484 times by the title ‘Lord’ or ‘Christ.’ A staggering 95 percent of the times he is mentioned, he is referred to by a title of respect.”

If God sued you for defamation of character, who would win?

BAD FORM
REFLECTS BAD FAITH

If this kind of lifting is mad and miserable, how should I lift God’s name?

2. GOOD LIFTING HELPS US

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Like all the other commandments, this one also has a positive side. It doesn’t only forbid, but also requires. Again, putting together the Shorter (54) and Larger (112) Catechisms:

THE THIRD COMMANDMENT REQUIRES: 

  • The holy and reverent use

OF

  • God’s names, titles, attributes, ordinances, word, and works,
  • and whatsoever else there is whereby he makes himself known

IN

  • thought
  • meditation
  • word
  • and writing

BY

  • an holy profession
  • and answerable conversation (lifestyle)

TO

  • the glory of God
  • and the good of ourselves
  • and others

CHANGING OUR STORIES WITH GOD’S STORY

God gets joy in being lifted up: He’s given us lots of names and titles to lift up (@950), has called us to do so, and does it himself (Ps. 138:2) indicating how much he enjoys his name being lifted up.

We get joy from God being lifted up (Ps. 8:1,9): Think of how much joy you get when you learn how to lift weights and begin to lift more and more higher and higher. Name-lifting is far more strengthening and pleasure-giving than weight-lifting. 950 names and titles to strengthen and delight different parts of our souls.

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A NEW CHAPTER

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  • Gospel: ‘Jesus’ is the only name that saves (Acts 4:12), therefore call on that name and be saved (Rom. 10:13). Call on his name to remove all charges against your name for abusing his.
  • Worship: How excellent is God’s name in all the earth! (Ps. 8:1). “How sweet the name of Jesus sounds, in a believer’s ear! It soothes his sorrows, heals his wounds, and drives away his fear.” “O, praise the name of the Lord our God. Praise his name for evermore.” What a beautiful, wonderful, powerful name it is. Alistair Begg’s church has Ps 138:2 chiseled over the entrance.
  • Promises: Do not make vows at Confession of Faith, Baptism, or Marriage that you do not intend to keep.
  • Monday: Walk in the name of the Lord our God (Mal. 4:5), do everything in the name of Jesus (Col. 3:17), and witness to and out of that name (1 Pet. 3:15).
  • Anxiety: The name of the Lord is a strong tower, the righteous runs into it and is safe (Prov. 18:10)
  • Prayer: Write out a prayer that reflects this sermon, or use this one: “Most High God, train me to lift you as high as I can to give you and me the highest pleasure.”
  • Heaven: Heaven’s residents are stunned that more do not lift up God’s name (Rev 15:3-4). But one day every knee will bow and every tongue confess Christ’s name (Phil. 2:10-11)
  • Jesus: “No one ever spoke like this man” not about God or to God or as God (John 7:46; 17:6)

DISCUSSION QUESTIONS

1. There are twelve ways in which we take God’s name in vain. Can you suggest examples of each of these in your own life or in society?
2. What other ways do we take God’s name in vain?
3. What is a holy profession and answerable conversation (second point)?
4. Why do you get so much joy from lifting up God’s name?
5. How has lifting up God’s name strengthened you?
6. How can you better keep the vows you have made?

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