I’m sick and tired of hearing so many single and married men, even professing Christian men, talk so easily, casually, and nonchalantly about their “porn problem” or their “struggles with pornography.”
Porn use has become so common and “normal” that there’s not an ounce of stigma left in it. In fact, “confessing” your latest “fall” has become a fast-track to guaranteed sympathy, an arm round the shoulder, “Hey, none of us are perfect,” “Well, maybe we should think about tightening up accountability here and there…”
What happened to the “Yuk!” factor?
How about this for an alternative?
“What? You look at other people’s penises and vaginas in your spare time? For pleasure?”
I regret I have to be so coarse, but we need to do something to restore the shame and disgrace of this evil.
In fact, let’s go a bit further.
How about the next time some married or single Christian man (or woman) ambles up to you for a friendly chat about his (or her) “porn problem,” you reply, “You don’t have a porn problem! No, you have a masturbation problem.”
“Oh, pastor, don’t be so crude.”
“So it’s crude to say it, but not to do it?”
“Well, er…”
“By saying ‘I’m struggling with porn’ you are excusing yourself. You are blaming some distant pictures and pixels out there. But that’s just a means to an end. The real problem is not porn. It’s much closer to home. It’s between your legs.”
I could go on. I could get even more descriptive and graphic – using just medical terminology of course. Or, I could use some words I learned on the streets of Glasgow. But for the purposes of this blog post, let’s keep it within the realms of the Oxford English Dictionary. Although even that’s probably too shocking for many of us.
But that’s what we need. We need to be shocked again at the vileness of this sin. We need to see it for what it is, name it for what it is, and with the blessing of the Holy Spirit we might raise a new generation of men and women who will abhor this self-centered perversion of God’s created order.
Whatever you do, do not marry a masturbator (see clarification in comments below). Marriage rarely stops it. Indeed, many marriages have been ruined by it and by the fornication and adultery it almost always results in.
And if this post has sickened and disgusted you, good! That was the aim. Now take your nausea and disgust to the holy Lord Jesus Christ for pardon AND purging.
To paraphrase the Apostle John, “If we confess our masturbation, he is faithful and just to forgive us our masturbation and to cleanse us from all our masturbation!”